Married for over 20 years; will not allow him anywhere near the bathroom I’m in. And I don’t even really like him, sooo.....

I get it. I mean, sure, you guys should be comfortable with one another but I wouldn’t want anyone in when I poop...even if that person has held my hair back when I puked my guts out or something along those lines. I’ve thought nothing of sharing the bathroom when it was brushing teeth, etc. but I’ve never been…

Been together 14 years, married 11 next month, and we have come to an unspoken compromise. Door open for peeing, door closed or cracked for pooping. I think the “cracked” started with “Yo, help a brother out!” when he realized he was paperless and needed me to refill the cache under the sink. Also, the door opens a…

Close the door. Seriously. I totally agree with your rule. It doesn’t have anything to do with sexy. It’s just courtesy. Been happily married for 13 years, BECAUSE WE CLOSE THE BATHROOM DOOR!!

If it makes you uncomfortable then it makes you uncomfortable and that’s okay. If you love each other I’m sure you will find ways to keep the sexy going despite the fact you both poop, but don’t leave your comfort zone if you’re not ready.

Yes. That’s not to say you have to pop in front of each other. I’ve been living with my husband for 9 years and we don’ t poop or fart in each other’s company. But rigid overarching rules like these are what kills the sexy, not a bit of normal body functioning.

i think its one of those things that is fine to keep the mystery about it as long as you conceivably can. like, its nice i think to try and be sexy for each other and not be just like HEY HERE’S ALL MY WEIRD JUNK from the go. but eventually he’ll HAVE to pee while you’re showering or you’ll be doing butt stuff and…

I am with you. If I can have separate bathrooms from my loved one, I am a happy woman indeed.

My Grammy kept the romance strong in her marriage for more than 60 years. She told me to never do bathroom functions in front of your SO. She also said not to let him watch you put on pantyhose. I've observed these rules and they have served me well. To be fair, she also told me if you put shoes on the bed, there will…

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years and I still try to avoid being near the bathroom when I know he is going to poo. I just don’t want to hear these things. I also try to use the other bathroom so he can’t hear me do it. Maybe I’m prissy but oh well. it’s how I am.

I am fine with the guys I date knowing that I’m pooping or whatever, but I don’t really want to be in close proximity while he or I are doing it, because that’s just gross. Yet they all seem to want to get all up in your biz... Why? Why are they like that (saying this as a dude)?

People’s comfort levels and boundaries with this sort of thing are very variable from one of us to another. You’re not being silly, and the one thing I really don’t like here is that he’s saying you are. That’s minimizing, and it isn’t a big deal if it’s just with this one thing, but I’d keep an eye half-open for…

Ma’am I FEEL YOU. I am very shy about my bathroom usage because I DON’T KNOW WHY. I am also not amused by toilet humor—poop jokes make me cringe. This is not the exact issue you have described, but it feels close enough for our purposes. Anyway, my husband and I have been together 8 years, and I still, to some extent,…

You should do what makes you comfortable, but I don’t think I could ever keep up this sort of no-no in my relationship. I’ve never had a “no bodily functions allowed”, and I don’t think it’s practical. We all have to pee, poop, fart, belch etc. You live in small places, have to share a bathroom and shit (actual shit)…

I draw the line at pooping. That being said, if you can take a shit and still feel the mutual need to jump each others bones, THAT’S THE REAL DEAL

I’ll pee with the door open in front of anybody, but poop is a different story. I can’t do that with anyone around. The only time I can take a decent dump is if there’s nobody in the house. Which means I won’t take a good shit until August when all the rugrats go back to school.

I wouldn’t even be ABLE to poop in front of someone else (poop shy), so there’s that, but I just don’t see the reason. I don’t want to see him pooping and I don’t need to. He doesn’t need to see me pooping either. I don’t think it’s some big signifier of intimacy to be in the same little room with someone pooping.…

Don’t force yourself to do anything you’re not comfortable with. I’ve been with my husband for 5 years and I still shut the door/turn on the fan when I’m in the bathroom. Bodily functions make me uncomfortable, that’s just a thing I have, so it’s whatever. If you’re not down with it, it’s not a big deal!

Once you get to your first diarrhea fest that all fades away

I understand. It is weird and hard. Actually feeling ok farting in front of my now-husband is how I knew that it was something special. I don’t understand how he can find me attractive after watching me birth two kids, but he does. Men are weird.