That's not a "pass"; that's a terrible thing. The worst part about not being there is not some emotional pain from being judged by others, the worst part about not being there IS NOT BEING THERE. Men aren't as castigated for making the wrong choice because many of them don't get that choice.

Let's be clear, it's not possible to work 60+ hours a week and be there for the home stuff. Maybe once and a while if you're the boss you can arrange your schedule to be there but you aren't doing the daily after school pick ups, the homework, etc. It doesn't matter if you're working three jobs making minimum wage…

I remember reading an article and I can't for the life of me remember the publication that talked about this. The men in high powered jobs wrote how they were not as connected to their children but felt it was their job as a father to provide for them. They expressed anger that the women were not willing to make the…

I'm glad she's okay but also not surprised that someone dumb enough to get their ass injected with bathroom caulk would also believe in an invisible sky-man.

Umm...I just don't understand why you would have children if your workday ends at 10PM every day. I mean, that's no fun for you or them. I wouldn't even have a dog if i had that kind of work schedule. Maybe this is a controversial statement. I'm all for career minded women, but we have to be realistic, non? Same goes…

This is like something out of a nightmare. I truly don't understand the fascination with plastic surgery.

If you choose to work (and earn dual income) you choose to miss the coffee. Why should we cancel a good weekly meeting because in some families both parents work? Should we shape policies based on the ideal of both parents working? Because I don't think it's very ideal for all kids to be in daycare. Where are we going…

Why shame the person who returned this dog? Keep the shaming up and more dogs will be left on a rural road.

But then who's left at home? I feel like that's the messed up part; in a country where 76% of people live paycheck-to-paycheck, we act as though everyone's jobs should be giving them fulfillment. I have no doubt that a lot of people who do find all of their fulfillment from jobs, but I think that most people, men and…

"Men are free from those shackles." No, they're not. Sure, they are "free" to choose work over family, but they end up with kids who think they are assholes who only cared about work.

The idea of "class coffee" pisses me off. School administrators know that many parents work during the day, yet they set these things up anyway, and now you get to feel like a shitty person for not being able to invest in your kid's education or whatever. And notice that it's only supposed to be with the mothers; it's…

I'm not trying to gang up on you, but look at how many people agree with KatA's statements compared to you. To me, it is very telling.

It is BEYOND OBVIOUS what this person means by "Hate Speech" is nothing more than speech SHE HATES. This person Kat is just too frail & emotional for the real world civil rights.

I understand your anger. I understand the extreme frustration. I've worked hard on behalf of disadvantaged people (though not transgendered people specifically).

How many people telling you that it was an inappropriate, jarring, and disrespectful way to write about the topic will it take before you actually entertain the concept that you're wrong on this one? Why are you holding on to this with such an iron grip when a simple edit would fix the problem?

"I just can't right now, I just can't even."

Seriously people, get off this. Nobody is going to be shocked if his turns out to be a hate crime. But making blind assumptions when you know nothing about what happened is foolish. Anything could have happened that night. Wanting to find out facts is not a bad thing.

Of course, this probably was a hate crime and it's great that you're bringing attention to it. But there's no reason to lambaste our police officers for not using perfect Jezebel-approved language when they're forced to give a verbal statement in a high-pressure situation. They're doing their best to protect us.

I think it is a horrible crime but i'm confused by your refutation of the quote above. The officer said that he did not think that she was killed b/c she was transgender which is why he didn't consider it a hate crime. It could have been a hate crime—the police officer could have been wrong about that but I am not…

"Do you typically see non-hate crime related homicides that end with burning the already dead body and then dumping it like worthless refuse in a garbage bin?"