Ah, but at the same time there was the riot grrrl ethos of taking the feminine/sexy and making it aggressive and powerful.

Not everybody has the same psychological makeup. Like the happy hour/ grad school app scenario—I do my best work under the gun, so that wouldn't be a definite no-no for me. Someone might say it would be even better if I got started earlier then had more time to edit, etc. But that just isn't how it works for me. My…

Yes, I meant 1.3 not 1.5. Still, pretty great!

I just think that somebody who has serious convictions about food should not be forced, at their wedding reception, to pay for or serve things that go against that conviction. I am not vegan though. I believe that delicious, fresh, simply cooked food is important, so that's what I served, with plenty for vegetarians…

True. I can't run, for instance. I'm athsmatic. I can, however, walk for long bouts at moderate paces. For many fitness people, if you're not getting your heart rate up, you might as well be sitting on the couch but slow and steady can really win the race, especially if you like walking.

So everybody should be like you?

Everyone's different. I quit two months ago. I didn't tell anyone except those who would notice anyway. I got electronic cigarettes (which have the disclaimer "this are not a smoking cessation product.") I carried them with me for after coffee, out at bars—times that I might cave. Instead of caving, I smoked fake…

Every once in awhile I have soda at a restaurant or with vodka that does not taste especially nice but my husband is the one with that particular addiction. It's easy to slip into, though. Sugar (or it's chemical approximate) is a darn addictive substance, made worse by putting it into a cold and refreshing medium.…

I just think a supposedly feminist website is not the appropriate place to make fun of a woman's nuptial choices. Unless that woman is a celebrity (as it is also a celebrity gossip site).

I wasn't saying they didn't participate in some traditional things, I'm just saying adding your own elements in order to make it your unique event (shared, of course, with those you invite) is a good thing, an evolution of the whole concept of a wedding. I had vegans, vegetarians, meat-eaters and one girl who uses…

Yes you do. Wheat gluten is often in places you would not expect to find it. Like soup. Or sauces. Same with nuts.

Sure, but will they patronize them 1.5 million dollars a day more?

That sounds like a great wedding! I love Mexican street food and Pablo Neruda! Your guests were lucky.

So making the wedding about some cobbled together tradition of buying and selling daughters, virginity and the ever popular animal sacrifice is inherently better and more guest-friendly? I guess that depends on who your guests are. The great thing about living in a culture where women are not owned by their parents…

But nobody said the food was bad or that nobody liked it, it was just vegan. Why should the wedding be about anybody other than the newlyweds? If the invited guests don't want to come they don't have to be there. If they don't want to eat the food at the reception they can go to a restaurant or make their own damn…

I agree that vegans can be self-righteous and I'm totally with you on marathoners and yuppie parents, but come on, people with celiac disease can get really sick from eating something with wheat in it and people with nut allergies can die on the spot, so in many cases they are doing something necessary. I mean, you…

I didn't have a kale bouquet (mine was silk flowers and a seashell...not vegan) but I did have live purple kale in the centerpieces. The Italian restaurant where we had the dinner took most of the pots of kale to grow in the back and make specials from. That's pretty sustainable and I don't think at all…

Also the fedora thing is particularly hilarious, having been a forerunner on the nerve scene, I saw my share of fedoras.

I guess I'm late to the game but I just browsed through Nice Guys on OkCupid and laughed so hard I cried. I think there is a point missing between women being judged for their looks and men for their personalities. We're all judged for both, it's just a question of what catches our eye from a two-dimensional…

I'd prefer my cats the the Guitarslingser or Shirtless.