I guess I would rather applaud someone when they have dealt with their assault and have grappled it and processed it long enough that they *don’t* have revenge fantasies about it because they are in a healthy place now.

I really just want to ask the author if she has ever changed one of her core values/preconceptions because this reads like she has not. People don’t see someone making a weird/rude comment to them in an email chain of friends and think “ohhh I must be wrong!” That is not how epistemological change happens. It happens…

I mean, have you ever changed your mind because of a random weird (rude) person who made a comment to you? As someone who HAS changed their mind about big topics/values, I can tell you it only happens when people are nice and vulnerable and share their story with you. Rude comments just made me more defensive and…

why is this bad? i feel like i am the same way?? eek.

How is it different? She got paid by one. She had NO say in this article, didn’t get paid from it, and likely isn’t how she’d want her story to be told.

I guess I don’t really get the difference between what espn did and what jezebel is doing by publicizing what should be her private struggle. At least she got paid by ESPN.

Yeah I feel like this happens every time men are allowed in female spaces, including trans women who identified as male for their formative years.

Then they should just say money. The other shows bring in more money.

is there a less enthusiuastic way to announce this than “i’m finally free to say...”

i...dont.... get it?

Yeah that’s the mom’s fault tho, not bens. She put them in that situation, Ben was just being fair and seeing if something was there.

Jojo is a real estate developer. She knows what looks good so she probably doesn’t have tons of clutter laying everywhere like the rest of America.

Most people don’t have the time/money for what you do. This is why people who want capital ‘J’ Journalism should pay a premium for what they read. Everyone else should be okay with “entertainment” sites that employ zero journalists.

Jesus, what is privileged about thinking about what makes you happy and then doing it to the best of your ability? That’s just life, fundamentally.

To decide what makes you happy and then focus your time energy on those things? Yeah, it is simple.

Love when dads are like “I’m babysitting tonight!” and want a cookie.

Definitely true, but this is part of the path forward.

“I am trying my motherfckin hardest to “have it all””

“Why should parenting continue to weigh so much more heavily on female academics than on their male counterparts?”

tbh, Good. they deserve it.