Yeah, I'd say it falls under my favorite vague umbrella term for shit that's messed up but you haven't quite yet been able to unpack why. It's problematic.

Yo, a bisexual woman who knows how people can be offensive about "confusing" types of sexual identities, I would never challenge anybody on what they believe is their sexual identity, but what the fuck is Franco doing here? The weird thing is that I feel like I've known several straight men (meaning they say they…

I don't think I'm misunderstanding them. I get that it's cultural influences, but it still bothers me. I don't want to be cool with a guy "thinking he owns me" as if he just can't help it. They can grow the fuck up and get over it.

Yikes. I don't want any dick belonging to a dude who vomits at the thought of gay sex anywhere near me. I also don't want to fuck any guy who thinks I lose value based on being with other guys past or present. I'm so sick of hearing the word "cuckhold", there is no equivalent term for a woman who is cheated on. It's…

I bet that's true for many people, but couldn't something similar be said for monogamy? The motives for wanting to only have one partner could be just as broken. Despite the fact that it doesn't work out for many people monogamous relationships are still held as the gold standard because they make people feel special,…

Haha, you are right. I'm in my mid twenties and proof that people my age are kind of shitty at relationships. I'm still holding out that it will get better tho.

Yeah, it definitely takes the wind out of my sails when guys are 100% cool with me dating other women but are deeply wounded at the thought of me seeing men. As if "it's just different with girls". What it says to me is that they don't think female same sex attraction is as legitimate, real, and intimidating as hetero…

I've known that I am inclined toward polyamory but it has never gone well for me. I'm only slightly younger, and I can only hope that people get better about it as they get older. In my experience people think it's creepy and swingery, or if they they are dudes think it means lots of threesomes and me occasionally…

Hey, cool cocktail, but how about next time some more info about how to cook DMT in your kitchen. K, thx.

I'm totally in favor of the concept of "self-care" but for some reason that phrase makes me gag. It brings to mind smug-eyed memes of fluffy cartoon animals drinking tea and shit that seem to pop up in places like tumblr especially. It's in the same vein as people who call anybody who pisses them off "toxic".

I also enjoy plant therapy, but mostly in the form of the (where I live) legal marijuana. But thanks, I'll look into it.

Aw, fuck that. There is nothing they can do to change their height. I come from a family of short women and they are always cutting themselves down for looking "stumpy" no matter how thin. What are we supposed to do wear short shorts and short shift dresses all the time? Nope.

You are very sweet. Thanks for the thoughtful response.

Yeah, I know what works for me might not work for everyone, but honestly I think what's really helped me is reading Alan Watts and listening to David Lynch talk about TM. And I know this is fucked up, but I think I might be wary of CBT because I know it's usually directed at people with personality disorders, which is…

No, it was in combination with talk therapy. That was at the time I was still trying it.

Here's the thing, I eagerly recommend therapy to others if they think they need or want it but it has always been totally miserable for me. Every time I've tried therapy it just freaks me out. I'd cry too much because I was so nervous in sessions. I'd feel patronized or like I'm not really being listened to at all.…

Hahaha. I attended a Catholic high school and I had forgotten just how casually people in those institutions can pepper their language with complete non sequiturs about "the rights of the unborn". Whether it was in mass, daily prayer, biology classes, gov/civ classes, art classes, daily announcements, sporting events,…

Yeah, at the ripe old age of 25 I'm realizing that love is boring. Those insane, unstable, emotionally traumatic relationships are an edge of your seat roller coaster ride, but they aren't really love or at all sustainable. Love, like day to day cohabitation without any big messy shit is boring, and that's fine. I…

Don't worry, there's a literary precedent for this kind of thing.

My weird single habits are definitely food related. I'd be totally happy living on bread, cheese, hummus, tinned oysters (I know this is a weird one), eggs, avocados, apples, and like some chocolate. That and endless red wine. I've realizing after living with dudes that they do not consider constant light snacking…