Something YOU said really resonated with me:

Just requested this book from my local library.  My marriage was emotionally abusive and it’s taken a long time for me to admit that to myself.  The library catalogue also showed up works about how men can help oppose male violence.  My brother is an amazing guy, and very committed to feminism, so I’ve recommended…

Thank you both. Also, checking to see if the library has that Lundy book available.

Something you said really fucking resonated with me. I’m fairly well versed in identifying patterns of abuse. I have not read Bancroft’s book but it is a frequent recommendation in several communities I read regularly. But I have never seen step one referenced ever. I’ve always made a point to speak out about my…

I just don’t understand why the hell he’s been allowed to just roam free for SO FUCKING LONG. Everybody knew. They knew! He married a 15 year old! He peed on Sparkle’s underage niece! It was a thing! Everyone KNEW!

The commentary from professionals addressing the psychological context of abuse was powerful and genius. So, so well done. 

I think you know what I meant by ‘excuses’ [Get out of trouble free cards] MEN mostly GIVE and GET (from everyone) when they screw up: he was young, his mama didn’t raise him, everybody makes mistakes, I paid for that, can’t I get a second chance...

Cheeks, this is perfect. You summed up all my feelings and thoughts. I love you. We will get through the rest of this bullshit together. 

Wasn’t there something with Paul Walker too? Like his girlfriend at the time of his death was much younger and he’d started dating her when she was a teen and he was grown?

Yeah. It was awful to watch. She’s conventionally attractive in every way and way to critical of herself. Why should she feel guilty for hating laundry? Who likes folding clothes (other than Marie Kondo).

YES. That same couple went from having like 30 random cardboard boxes stacked in their bedroom to like...10 boxes after decluttering...and Marie was so genuinely proud of them. Not so much as a sidelong glance. Her lack of judgment is IMPRESSIVE.

I noticed a few women on the show seemed to feel internalized pressure to do it all when they have a husband and kids who can pick up some of the slack. I’m glad Kondo always made a point to put different family members in charge of their own projects and spaces to lift some of that burden.

I love how the husband criticized his wife for paying for laundry service when he's obviously not doing any of the housework or child care.

I only watched the first episode, but the couple featured drove me insane. Marie is pretty charming though!

Seek help immediately . You are playing metal gymnastics to excuse a 51 year old PEDOPHILE. Cognitive dissonance is a thing 

Karl Hess has been a joke for years. He should’ve been canned long ago. I’ll bet one of his kids is a cop. Screw that guy.

I think Scottish people often resent the way the English say “British” when they mean “English” specifically, since it implies that English is the default kind of British. A Scot might say “don’t call me British, I’m a Scot.” But I’ve never heard of a Scot saying "we Scots aren't British" because that would simply be…

[10 second sigh]

Oddly enough, Temujin’s entire empire was built from rage over a perceived slight by Ong Khan, who told him he looked “spanish.”

Certainly seems like it based on some of the responses, lol. (That was a very Trey Parker-esque observation you had there.)