that is a lovely suit! it could be styled so much better. 

/conspicuous silence from chicago/

the age of consent is definitely troubling, but kelly’s behavior is unacceptable whatever the age of his victims. he has targeted girls who are above the age of consent, no doubt in an effort to avoid intervention by authorities, so age of consent is not irrelevant, but it’s not like everything would be ok if only the…

control is the whole point for abusers, and kelly controls both the girl (now woman) and her family, too. it reflects that deep down, some folks just don’t believe that women are worth as much as men. like her sacrifice is just the cost of living.

one of kelly’s many manipulations was creating delays in the case. it was a way for him to further control the victim, who eventually did not participate in the prosecution. by the time the case came to trial, witnesses’ memories were easier to discredit, and kelly had had time to try to buy or coerce testimony (his…

they did prosecute him for child porn, but he was acquitted 6 years after charges were filed. one of the jurors was on camera saying he “just didn’t like” the women who testified against kelly. “i didn’t like the way they dressed, i didn’t like the way they talked.” he might as well have said he didn’t like black…

i’ve had two cats go through tooth extractions, and both of them gained weight & were so much happier after they healed. one of them even chose to eat dry cat food sometimes, though how she managed that, i do not know. my only regret was waiting so long to get it done; poor kitties were in pain with their screwy teeth.

https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that.pdf

Brilliant! I didn’t put that together: YOU did, and now my mind is blown! I also hate the sympathy, but never connected it with a subconscious aversion to one of my abuser’s tactics. That was really insightful on your part, so please let me thank you!

You are so so right in every word you wrote. So much self blame among the women he targeted and abused, while the enablers, including his brother Bruce and the one who got forged documents on Aaliyah, had so little shame for their actions. It was nauseating and triggering to watch, but such a necessary film. I kind of…

I thought that couple really needed some therapy, beyond what tidying up can provide.

The boxes! How could they sleep in that room? The towers of boxes could have crushed someone! Kondo was also judgment free about the insane number of Christmas decorations, which left room for the lady to see the truth by herself. (Though I did not see what happened to the nutcrackers in the end - did she shed them,…

A colleague died at our holiday party. Major coronary on the dance floor. 

i have also seen david byrne riding a bicycle like a maniac, but in the east village.

oatbiel

I’m so sorry the little kitten didn’t live, but it is not at all your fault. Kittens that young have a really hard time surviving without their mom. Feral kittens are often sickly, too. You gave that little kitten a safe and loving place to live while you could.

So glad you had a great trip! Here’s to many more road trips with your adorable little bunny! 

I’m gonna guess there’s a market out there for second hand thongs. Probably not the usual vintage clothing buyer, tho.

Ned?

I’ve taken my cat on a lot of road trips over the years; this summer we have driven about 2200 miles altogether. She is a great traveller (cars, planes, staying in hotels), and not all pets are like this, but here are some things that make our trips easier.