At my 18th birthday party, a ton of friends and I were dancing in my bedroom listening one of the CD’s they’d bought me. I had my camera, and for some reason I thought it would be funny to point it up the skirt of one of my female friends and snap a picture. She slapped me, very hard, on the face and left. I was…

Yes, it is always wrong to make the advance after the woman says “no.” If she is operating with the antiquated rulebook of “coyness” in hand, she will learn not to do that, just as men are now learning more and more about consent. Also if a woman likes you and sends the wrong signal, she WILL find a way to correct…

The thing is...it is easy to have strictly platonic friendships. Just don’t try to sleep with your friend because she agreed to stay at your house. If she agrees to sleep in your bed, and you try to touch her and she isn’t responsive, don’t try to touch her again. While I certainly agree that a woman agreeing to sleep…

I am a woman, and this whole thing as actually gotten me thinking of whether or not I have done some unintentionally racist/homophobic thing, especially in junior high and high school when I was oblivious about those issues. I mean, I know I have never used slurs, etc., but when you are in a position of power it is…

One thing you can do - call it out when you see other guys doing it. It takes so much to go against the grain, but it also takes just one guy speaking up sometimes to diffuse a potentially bad situation.

Yeah I’ve been replaying some shitty behavior in my 20s in my mind. I was pushy at times. I never ignored a hard no, but I did try to get people to change minds, stuff like that. I feel a little sick thinking about it, and I wish I knew then what I know now.

I’ve been the guy on the other side—using women’s reluctance to give a hard “no” as an opening to keep pushing.

Thanks, Hannah; this was a great piece. Unfortunately all too familiar, particularly as I’m a fellow reformed Cool Girl, but I hope it opens some eyes.

It certainly did me. It has forced me to re-evaluate a lot of my previous interactions with women. It has also made me realize I need to be exceedingly proactive in teaching my son about consent, boundaries, accountability, etc.

I hope this makes some of those “good men” try to remember the things they have forgotten. I hope that realizing you are an unself-aware part of the solution is still part of the problem. It certainly had that effect on me.

So now it’s just he said vs she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said, she said,…

While your outrage is understandable, your framing is problematic - the board should care about HW’s victims NOT because the board members have wives/sisters/daughters/mother’s, but because those victims are PEOPLE. I am a person (also a wife, mother, daughter, sister, etc) but it is MY PERSONHOOD that matters, not…

If Target is actually at least paying lip service to pushing off Christmas until after Thanksgiving good for them but they’re waging a lonely fight.

You should keep in mind is that most assault doesn’t take place in a dark alley with strangers based on what a woman’s wearing - it happens with people they know, like friends or family or employers, regardless of what she’s wearing. If I have daughters, the biggest thing I’m planning to teach them is personal…

I haven’t watched enough to weigh in directly, but, if it is as you say—that the women are portrayed as having most of the power in their relationships—that is just an inversion of the system of gender constructs.

This is spot on. The thing about a lot of sexual harassment analysis is that it assumes harassment is always about some kind of arousal, and therefore the solution is to either cause women to avoid arousing men or to teach men to control their impulses around women.

Looks have pretty much 0 to do with harrassment. It’s a power play and it manifests itself that way. I know women and girls who are not conventionally accepted as “pretty” (which is bullshit anyway)—they arguably get it worse than the “pretty” ones: they also get the anger from the harassers, “Why aren’t you hot, you…

She’s also a promoter of homeopathy and anti-vax. Having an advanced degree does not make you a source of wisdom.

Was she unaware her self-proclaimed modesty, under the guise of ‘Orthodox Jewish feminity’, is wholly rooted in the patriarchy? If so, it is an irony I find funnier than any of the 11 total seconds I’ve seen of Big Bang Theory.

It’s easy to remember because stantionEry includes an envelope!