Are you fucking kidding me?!!! Sticking your finger INSIDE someone that does not want your finger inside them and is not aware you are doing it, that is not allowed to be considered as a life altering sexual assault?! FUCK OFF.

Honey, you are 100% not alone in this. I was raped when I was 16 and I still sometimes have trouble sharing my story because it was my boyfriend and I wasn’t like unconscious or anything... it sucks having to constantly remind yourself your experience is valid! But nonetheless, your experience is valid! *lots of hugs*

What happened to you in high school was not okay-even if it was typical. It’s not about evaluating whether we good enough victims-it is about demanding that this type of behavior stop.

Oh wow. This is what happened to me, right down to the punk house, and going to bed first. Exactly this. I never told our friends though. I just woke up, got dressed and walked 20km home. He followed me for a while apologizing out of his car window. Fuck. This hits hard.

Yes, thank you. This exact same thing happened to me, except I was so drunk I couldn’t fight back physically, the whispered “No No No”s that escaped my mouth didn’t stop him, and he raped me.

Not that you need it, but as someone who lived through an extremely violent sexual assault that left physical and emotional scars, I give you full permission to call it whatever you want. While there may be varying degrees of what is involved in each incident for each victim, they are all “bad enough”.

I know that for me, in the past, trying to explain to someone how they violated me has been draining and made me feel more anger and shame. Writing a letter out but not sending it has been pretty helpful. I had a therapist that also asked me to write to my 15 year old self who was assaulted. It helped put things in…

I’ve found the ‘me too’ movement on Monday has had a drastic impact on me this week. It was cathartic but also has made me absolutely furious. It brought up instances of assault that I had buried, and also just has me dead set on NO MORE LETTING IT GO. I don’t care if I lose ‘friends’ over my new mindset. If me making…

I admittedly am bringing some of my own history to the table, but is anyone else frustrated by how he refuses to name what he did?

Even people who just fucked up still deserve consequences for their actions. The average drunk driver doesn’t start the night planning on hurting anyone, but they still deserve to be charged for their crime. Pressing charges was the right thing. If he was just stupid, you gave him a chance to learn. If he was evil,…

This really drives home the difference between predators and idiots who don’t understand consent. There is a difference between fucking up huge then having remorse and feeling entitled to do whatever you want to other peoples’ bodies.

So in the last few days, I have thought about different scenarios of what might happen if we talked. And I thought about you apologizing, and I tried to think about what it means to accept that. I guess I still don’t know what it means or matters, but I do accept your apology.

Thank you for sharing this, for a variety of reasons.

Why is our society so stupid about sex education?? Obviously a good many parents are not explaining to their sons about consent like if the woman is asleep, passed out, or otherwise incapacitated that it’s not okay to violate them. I sure as hell told my son this stuff. Like over and over to make sure it penetrated…

Yes, this is amazing. Thank you so much, Anonymous, for putting this out there. Wishing you peace.

Thank you for sharing this.

Her point about offering to give him a massage instead of accepting one is so telling. When we’re afraid we bargain and try to give narcissists what they want so we can minimize harm or plan our escape routes. I have no doubt that Weinstein will pretend that Nyong’o happily instigated the encounter. We smile at…

My stomach was dropping the whole time I read this. I’m so glad she got away from him. I have no doubt that he would have raped her if he had a better chance to do so.

I hate that it’s being normalized.

I think he kind of says “...because I was a shitty person.”