I will admit that earlier in the pandemic I was definitely part of the pandemic-shaming group. And, like an earlier commenter noted, I’m still side-eyeing the hell out of people who are flying across the country for a vacation or having maskless weddings, etc. (especially as someone who canceled my wedding so that no…

This is going to be absurdly petty, but to know Rich as performatively academic is to read his thing a while back where he conducted the most boring interview possible with John Waters — which for a gay culture section journalist, like, how?

Right? This is an overly-wordy take that boils down to, “don’t take sides, you don’t know the whole story” except.... no, this is a case where you can absolutely take sides and arguably have a moral obligation to do so.

From the articles by Rich that I’ve seen - I’m thinking particularly of some of his comments about consent issues in the past - it seems that his motivation is just: But If We Do It It’s OK. Or more specifically: gay people must not be criticised, especially by other gay people, because the “gay community” (i.e.…

Yeeeeesh! Yeah, I get that we are all tired of going against he grain of our inherently social behaviors, but we all need to channel our inner antisocial Daria to survive this plague, and perhaps the next whenever it rears its head. In the meantime, name and shame these fools if their social punishment is a deterrent…

wtf is this?

“Performatively academic” is the best description of Rich I’ve ever read. Thank you. The way in which he has been elevated to Gay Men spokesperson on this site over the past few years is infuriating. I’m a gay man too, and superficially similar to Rich in many ways - white, reside in a large city, etc - but his…

Naming and shaming does work, which is why Gaysovercovid is a “success” in turning many of the men depicted into pariahs, who might lose their friends, family, or jobs. At the end of the day, humans are social creatures, so if the consequence of their callous travels during this most dark of times is being cast out…

Seconded. The most infuriating example was a nurse who received his first dose of the vaccine one day and the next day was posting thirst trap photos from his vacation in Mexico.

And it’s funny that a couple weeks ago it was like “Look at these fucking Trump plague rats with their maskless rallies!” but now it’s “Well, people need a social outlet. You don’t know their economic background. Maybe that circuit party was medically necessary?”

You know what the solution is for these people? Don’t post on social media! Oh wait, these same people are vapid and stuck on showing the world that they’re having “fun?”

Some of the larger community’s “chosen family” members have refused to allow a pandemic to redefine their lives and have brazenly broadcast their gatherings

“White Affluent Gay” says what? This is not a report, this is not an article, this is an opinion piece that seems to be excusing and apologuising for all the affluent (mostly white) gays that have been learning about accountability in real time.

Fuck, Rich. Just stay home. 

Yeah. I mean, if straight people were like “Gross, gays are partying." I'd be like "Go mind your own weddings and bars." but I don't think that gay people pointing out other gay people acting irresponsibly is actually homophobia or something.

I hope that account NEVER gets banned. I love it. I love seeing these white affluent gays get so fucking pressed about being outed for partying. They are the same ones who go party with their friend Tina with no masks, and then show up to a protest for clout points.

This is a very verbose, detailed way of justifying dangerous behavior in a pandemic by deeming public shaming as equally problematic. (If ___ is so shitty, then why isn’t ____?)

tl;dr there are good people on both sides

I’m guessing a photo of Rich partying showed up on the account?

Complicated feelings about this account because in the age of the social media+COVID I really wonder about the best ways to promote positive behavior change, but low-key excited that one of the a**hole nurses I work with could be called out here one day. He’s the type of sh*t who yelled at me in front of my boss for…