I’ve found it works best when I lay things out explicitly: “hey, buy my flowers this week.” “Hey, our anniversary is next week. I want you to spend no more than $20 on a gift but you have to get me something. Got it?”

The first time I invited my now-husband over to my place, he couldn’t figure out what to bring. So he ended up bringing everything he could find. So he shows up with a bag and pulls out a potted orchid, a box of trader joes toffees, a bottle of wine, some pistachios (?)? wasabi peas (??) and toys for my dog and cat.…

There were actually guides that went out beforehand to them where they were advised to avoid the green line.

I get my opinion soup from cable news, thankyouverymuch

Living and working in a tourist destination is a pain in the ass. Tourist season in DC - GAHH. They wander into streets to take pictures, clog up Metro escalators, their stupid and terrible tour buses block roads, urgh.

seriously. This was a fucking interesting article - especially broadening the local experience to larger socioeconomic impact of sanitation, hygeine, access to water. The comments on this article are mind-blowing. I guess it’s better to smugly judge those who work with NGOs than to, you know, get involved in anything…

Yes! It’s not just about the experience and the women and girls, but the economic and social implications of lack of sanitation and hygeine. Fascinating.

So you didn’t actually read the article, I’m guessing. These aren’t westerners criticizing - they are primarily local NGOs seeking to educate and improve hygiene.

OK thank you! I’m really not a petty person but it bugged me!

I hated being the center of attention at my wedding. I’m glad we kept it small - I don’t think i could have handled anything bigger

Not ok. I would have had a word with the photographer.

Don’t go! Third wedding? Send a card.

Oh god, I love Indian weddings. I want more Indian friends just to go to another. Hell, I wanted to HAVE one but then I had to marry a lily-white guy. I still tried to convince him to arrive on an elephant or horse, but he just couldn’t bring himself to do it.

I would judge, most definitely, but man - that day was so wonderful and fun I don’t think it could have spoiled it. I’d just laugh about their tackiness later :)

Someone came to my wedding in an ivory dress, and I actually didn’t even notice until a friend asked me “who was the woman who showed up in the white dress?” We had to sort through pictures to find her. I honestly noticed very little that day - it was such a big wonderful blur. I don’t think anything could have…

I’m large-chested. I ended up not doing boning, and had straps added to a strapless dress for exactly the reason of this picture. I wanted more support than a strapless dress could offer.

She didn’t mock her body shape. It’s the dress that doesn’t fit. I have a very similar body shape - your wedding is not the time to shove yourself into a too-small dress. You have to sit, you have to dance, and there are a million pictures of you. Get something that fits!

You could say the same thing about pregnancies then. Why get pregnant when you could adopt? The fact is that telling people with fertility problems to just adopt is rude and ignorant. Some people want to get pregnant and have a baby that way. Adoption is an answer to a completely different question - it’s not a…

My husband and I have pretty much agreed that if a future son joins a social frat, he’s on his own paying for college. I’m not supporting this stuff.

is it very time consuming? I’m waiting a year until I get a good look at lighting and drainage over all the seasons, and then I’m going to start planning and planting.