They were in talks last year with E! about a reality show but I haven't seen anything since. So hopefully maybe she'll just slink off.

except she's probably going to end up with a reality show and tons of money.

I really don't understand the mentality of giving bad reviews if you didn't at least give the place a chance to correct things. Why would you set out to destroy them if you never even raised the issue? I've given a single 1-star review on trip advisor and it was a truly terrible experience and the hotel blew off my…

On the one hand - I absolutely agree this is a shitty and terrible policy and this hotel deserves all the shame for it.

Just because nobody said anything doesn't mean they liked it. It would be even ruder to criticize your etiquette breach. But yeah, thinking about "getting friends and family to throw money" at you makes it seem like you really missed the point.

ouch, ok, that's a totally different thing.

In Shia Islam there is actually a type of temporary marriage (called Nikāḥ al-Mutʿah) that specifies a length of time for the marriage.

out of curiosity, what was it?

Yes, thank you. I feel like I'm in such a minority about this, but I fucking HATE destination weddings. I'd rather claw my eyes out than go to an all-inclusive resort on a good day. And they're usually a way to crowdsource a wedding - the bride/groom get their stay comped if enough other people book.

I think it's a uniquely NY thing to buy an apartment. Everywhere else in the US I've ever lived apartments are only places you rent. That's the confusion.

I wanted a Chinese or Indian or pretty much anything other than a stuffy American catholic(ish) wedding. Unfortunately we're white, midwest, Catholics. Boo.

It's disingenuous.

I don't really see a good way to do this that doesn't involve using the grapevine. Your other option is a small registry of a few housewares - people will probably figure out that you dont' need much stuff and will give you money.

Yeah...no. People always think their poems asking for money somehow soften the fact that they're asking for money. They don't. It still looks gauche.

Ewwww yeah, I would be annoyed too. This is the problem with asking for money for anything - people will have opinions about how you spend it (not criticizing you - I would totally feel the same way). Gifts should be freely given without obligation or request.

What about outdoor stuff if you guys hike/bike? Or luggage?

The general etiquette rule is that registry information is "pull" information, not "push." It's ok on the website, because people have to go to the website and look for or "pull" the information. It's not ok to push out the information in an invite.

But it's a shower. She's asking friends to throw her a CASH SHOWER.

Um, tell her to fuck right off. You don't ask your friends to throw you a shower - they offer. And if you're having an out-of-town shower, then you bring an empty suitcase or people ship the gift to your house and give you a picture/printout of it.

Good god no. Your aunt is totally wrong. You don't invite people to showers if they're not invited to the wedding! WTF! Decline the invitation and send a nice card when they get married. WTF.