I hate registries but I have accepted them as a necessary evil.

"Is it terribly tacky to ask for cash in invites? My first instinct is that it absolutely is, but maybe I am just not with the times."

I think in NY "apartment" is synonymous with "condo"

It's an issue of tradition. People traditionally gave household items to help you start a household and life together. So when I make Mr. McRosie a pot roast I can remember how Aunt Helen so thoughtfully picked out the casserole. I actually really like that tradition.

You should recognize though that there's a generational split on that. Older folks probably want to get you a gift. Younger folks might be happy with a honeyfund. Have something for everyone. Hell, we registered for camelbaks and outdoor stuff along with dishes and glassware and whatnot. Our friends our age will love…

Sorry, but your mom is right. If you can't afford your vacation, you shouldn't crowdfund it. If you truly don't need/want anything, then tell people you don't want gifts. But a lot of people really WANT to get you nice things for your married life together - surely you can find a few items to register for and send…

Holy crap is that awful. I thought the invite to a destination wedding I got that said "cash gifts are appreciated" ON THE INVITE was bad. But yours is way worse. Oh god people are just the worst.

ewww. I felt squirrelly as hell putting a Vitamix on the registry, but my future MIL kept telling me to put a few higher end things on there. I was like "but it's $400!" and she finally said "look, we have some older friends who are coming and they are loaded and love to give expensive gifts, so just do it." Alrighty!

I thought at first I didn't want to register either, but my mom and future MIL really encouraged me too and I'm glad I did. We've upgraded the old chipped dishes, gotten a proper set of good knives, proper cookware, and it's great. I love to cook so I really appreciate all of it.

If you truly don't need anything, why not just send out the word that you don't want gifts? Because there's really very few circumstances where asking for cash won't look a bit...iffy.

There's a word for this: panhandling.

We're seeing Newsies on Broadway for mine. Just had to share that again because I'm so excited!

I'll bet it would blow this guy's tiny, pea-sized excuse for a brain that I go to the gym every day and am still fat. I can also probably kick his butt at many athletic events. Also still fat.

Fun fact: hippos sound exactly like the pigs in Angry Birds.

WTF. I would have been tempted to pour my drink on his head.

Gross. I'd gladly shell out the money to avoid having to be judged on my appearance by this skeezdoodle.

I don't mind dry weddings if they're for religious or whatever reasons. But for god's sake don't let them last too long :)

OK, that I'll get on board with (bottles of wine for the table). My family was always just beer, and shitty beer at that, but we're a big Irish Catholic family and that's what's done. That seems like a reasonable compromise, or the wine/beer for a few hours.

Again, I would never openly complain about any aspect of the…

Ok, you're right - that was overstated. But I REALLY think you should try to figure out a way to buy a round or two without shifting the cost to your guests, or rethink the size of your celebration. Classist, fine. But you shouldn't be making guests pay.

I would have it in Istanbul! Best city in the world!