I don’t even WEAR perfume and I’m tempted to buy a sample of this now.

I’ve only seen Belle but now I really want to watch it again.

Uh, yeah, I did read that actually. He had to answer the same questions everyone else who modifies their support has to answer: where’s your income from and how do you meet your expenses. You don’t have to wait for them to send you a form, you can just go do it.

Yeah I stared at that one for a while. I need some context. Why is she in a nightshirt in Qatar with a random kid???

It’s a control thing. And to be fair, my ex is a textbook sociopath so I wouldn’t extrapolate his behavior to anyone else. But yeah, he wouldn’t even let our daughter hyphenate her last name when I got remarried. Even if we kept his name first. So I’ve had to spend the last 10 years having schools call me by his last…

Yeah, I know in California you have to prove “abandonment” which is no contact for a significant amount of time. And my ex wanted to make sure he got every second of his visitation time, so that wasn’t going to happen.

Good, and since his name and picture is all over the article, his kids can finally get some money.

In California, if you lose your job you can get relief from payments as long as you’re filing paperwork about job searches with the DCSS. They won’t press you for payment if you’re actually unemployed and you notify them.

I’ve heard it as “you can’t squeeze blood from a turnip”. Which is why my ex is listed in my phone as “The Turnip.”

It is SO HARD to actually get someone jailed or have their license revoked, though. Almost any token payment will reset the clock, as it were. I’ve been fighting with my ex over support for 15 years now, and every time I start contempt of court proceedings he comes up with some paperwork or just enough money to derail…

Oh god, I know it’s SO FRUSTRATING. Because it seems to take forever for there to be any real consequences. And 6 months later you have to start it all over again. And it’s so exhausting trying to do the right thing when your ex is a master of evading consequences.

My daughter’s 18 now and only needs her own consent to adoption. So her stepdad will be adopting her shortly. My ex is gonna lose his shit over this even though he hasn’t talked to his daughter in almost a year.

lol my ex always tries to say that he TRIED to call but his daughter never answers the phone. I’m like “you know I can look at cellphone records online, right?”

My daughter’s lived with her stepfather for 13 years. We lived with her father for two. Who’s her dad? Uhhh I’m gonna say the guy that actually knows what the hell is happening in her life.

... wow I need to take more ASL classes.

Yeah, they’ve threatened to suspend my ex’s license a dozen times, but he’s never lost it because he’ll manage to cough up some token amount every time they catch up to him. He’ll stall until the deadline for every penalty and then show up with the “oh look I applied to 7 jobs this week” paperwork or $200 in hand and…

Heh, yeah I didn’t take my case to DCSS until oh ... the 5th or 6th check in a row bounced. Fine, dude, I gave you enough chances to pay this on your own, now we get the DA involved.

Mr. Bells and I went out for breakfast afterward and I laughed into my pancakes until I cried.

I know you can do that, but you have to prove abandonment. I’m not sure if the rules are the same everywhere but for me I was told there had to be no contact and no support. And Exhole was all over making sure he got every second of his custody rights so I couldn’t terminate even though he didn’t pay.

haha my ex was SO MAD when he found out I was finally dating again and HOW could I not tell him!? Of course, he’d probably had his new girlfriend about 30 seconds after we separated ... if not before.