Actually, I found her article very relatable, and well written. Just because she doesn't give every detail of her personal life doesn't make it less informative. Besides, the focus of the article isn't her marriage, it's the people around her.

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You must be delightful at parties.

No, that's fair, I did get into the relationship pretty close after the divorce was finalized. There was a good period of separation. But I know where you're coming from. We also didn't get serious immediately, because I needed time to work some shit out, but I also was able to progress as an individual with his…

I think you have a different case. Like, you would be there more if you could but you really just can't right now, rather than you won't be there because the whole situation freaks you out. When I got divorced, mostly what I wanted was people to act normal around me, be cool, hang out, don't be awkward or assume I…

Well okay, but with number 3, that kind of grates with me a little. Because I left my husband. But he was abusive. So who's not putting in the effort here? He could have sought anger management treatment, alcohol abuse counseling, maybe some therapy to figure out those Madonna/Whore issues he had. I asked him to, I…

lol, none at all, and certainly not in comparison to the other replies, I was just pointing out how rude and blind his/her comments were. In fact I posted a much more thought out reply to the original post.

I really wish my parents got a divorce. Like, what's better for the children, letting them grow up watching a dysfunctional and self-destructive relationship? Or letting them see that you can make a choice to be happy, even if it's difficult?

I hope you realize that you just said, "I did it this way and look how it's worked out so obviously people who did it a different way are stupid" or whatever. Like, gratz dude I'm glad it's going well. Tell us all your secrets to marriage.

There's really nothing you can do, unless the relationship becomes abusive or he becomes unfaithful. Just tell her you love her and you're here for her. Telling her to break it off will surely get you in a bad situation and might get you cut off from that friend. So you'll have to hold your tongue unless she's in a…

1. Stop judging. Rude.

I just tell people that I imagined myself really living the rest of my life in that situation and I knew I would die about 20 years early, just from the stress.

That was something I heard a lot, "oh it's really good you got out before kids, or a house, or any real assets" It was a very easy divorce, there wasn't even a lot of fighting, because I was very done with the situation and had the least amount of contact possible.

I was married at 22, divorced by 24 (I wrote 25 in another reply, sorry it was right around my birthday) and I will be remarried at 28. And oh my lord, I am getting some reallll awkward comments from people, and so much side-eye. But it's not the people that really know me.

Well you're a fantastic friend! I was so lucky to have people like that in my life when I went through my divorce at 25. I was super committed to not needing anyone because I was so embarrassed about what was happening that I didn't depend on them too much. Except for one night, a late night phone call to a friend,…

I can only assume that they were working on other things as well?

That comes from a time when a woman's purity (and therefore her value to a future husband) was worth more than her life. The fact that it's still around gives me the eye twitches.

Yes! This is what I tell people that are like, "why didn't they fight back?" I'm like, unless they had something like a hella strong stun-gun, mace and a very clear shot, or something that's going to put the fucker down, it's better not to do anything that's going to risk the attacker becoming more violent. Because…

Here's another perspective for those reeling from the price tag... if they were able to barter, it's most likely that all of these vendors were small, privately owned businesses. So those of you claiming that 80K is "immoral" or "stupid". I can see your point when it's like a $500K (it's happened) wedding that only…

Yeah, that I find very silly! Like, okay, if you really want that huge wedding, have a long engagement and save that money. But don't chain yourself to debt from the get-go of your new marriage!