I think the picture of heels followed immediately by the anecdote about buying shoes for some reason made the connection in my brain too, and I had to reread it to check., cause I was like, "WHY is she wearing heels in the garden, doesn't she know the heels will get stuck in the mud and.... oh."

Welp. This is officially my favorite thread

I can't believe that out of all these comments, no one's mentioned your fucking username.

Okay, 1. This PSA is great. 2. Dulé Hill with a beard is hottt.

I that's a very good point. A white woman talks about sex with her husband, and she's seen as completely in the right, the model for "keeping the marriage hot". A woman of color talks (or sings) about sex with her husband, there's still a film of promiscuity, of dirtiness, that comes from the fetishization of WOC.

Why not? I'm asking sincerely, what is the problem with that subject matter? Maybe young girls shouldn't hear it until they're old enough to understand it, but I'm pretty sure around the age of puberty, most teens know about oral sex, so there's no huge shock there.

I sang that song at my school's talent show. It was a good song!

I didn't say I didn't see any, just not many.

I don't make the assumption that everyone is violent. I make the assumption that most guys are okay, and that only some of them are violent. The only issue is: I can't tell which one is which. That takes time and interaction to feel the person out, and even then it might be an act. So while I get where you're coming…

Not every person is a serial killer, but that doesn't mean I'm gonna hop in some rando's white van when they pull over and ask for a ride. I agree that fear is not the solution. Teaching boys and girls how to handle rejection without anger and violence is ideally what should happen. But until that day comes, there's…

I haven't seen many posts of "Fuck all men" or "Boys are the worst". Mostly I see "Fuck society and it's complicity in an unequal and dangerous attitude about dating politics and rejection"

Yes. When a woman is rejected, there's something wrong with her. When a man is rejected, there's something wrong with her.

No, saying that "Not all men are like that" is stating the obvious. But it's also detracting the seriousness of the cases in which the men ARE like that. It's still not okay.

I think in this case, it's more that society approves with its lack of disapproval. There is no major backlash against it, and when some women try, it's shouted down with "feminazi!"

No. Most men are decent, upstanding guys that would never ever hurt someone because they were rejected. The idea is that there are some that would and we don't know who is which.

Well the fear is still there because it only takes one time rejecting the wrong guy. I mean, I get that most people aren't serial killers but I'm not gonna get in some rando's white van, you know? Rejecting the wrong guy and the wrong time can get you killed or raped or seriously injured and it's not going to matter…

Exactly! It only takes one.

Wellllll... perhaps not to the extent that this case went. But trust me, verbal and physical assault upon rejection isn't rare in the female dating scene.

Yeah, like she'd ever let Fritos in her house. You know that was from some trendy foodtruck.

Really? Was that really the best tagline he could come up with? That is some lazy, lazy writing.