Okay, we don't know what really happened in this household and we probably never will. And Taylor may sound like a phoney in some of her interviews. BUT. When my partner nearly raped me (several times) and I ignored it, and he hurt me and scared me and I ignored it and made excuses for him, and then I broke the fuck…

Yeah, this is troubling. I especially didn't expect this from Tracie Morrissey - she's one of my fave writers on here - but this seems like another form of victim blaming.

Thanks for bringing this up. Just because I fit a cultural "ideal" (maybe not what is ideal from person to person, but what is consistently shown in advertising) does not mean I am less "woman". I happen to naturally be very thin - fast metabolism and what not - and yet I, too, face a lot of judgement about my body. I…

I'm disappointed at the lack of comments like yours on here. That bit at the end, "The ultimate judgement of a person is how they treat helpless creatures like children and animals" is so true. How can people not see that?!

Thank you for saying this. I think what you said is not only eloquently expressed, but 100% correct. While reading your comment I also felt like this message applied to molestation. Kids should feel that they own their body and should feel safe in their body. No one (except a doctor in certain cases, like physicals…

Well obviously that child wasn't raised properly. Most kids respect authority naturally when they are young. If kids are raised with the time out corner they know it means serious business. Screwing around in said time out corner is normal, that's why kids need to be watched and reminded that they are in time out,…

Yes, didn't you just say your child is too young to understand cause and effect? How is he supposed to understand that if he does something again he will be hit - isn't that itself cause and effect. And not that this will change your mind about how best to parent your child, but why wouldn't saying "no" and grabbing…

You're great, I just want you to know that. People always act like there's this prescribed method to dealing with abusive relationships and, under the guise of concern, want to tell you what you should have done and that you could have done things better. Well fuck them. Unless you've lived it or had a close…

Totally agree. "Co-bathing" isn't that weird. For Americans it is because it involves parents being naked around their kids, but there's nothing sexual going on, just some nice clean fun in the bath. Pretty normal - props to Gweneth for normalizing the human form for her kids. For a site that's supposedly feminist,…

I'm visiting relatives right now and somehow we started talking about Megan's Law and the color-coded online database available to the public. I think it's irresponsible to have this particular database. We don't have databases for murderers or the like, so isn't the purpose of this database to fear-monger and to…

I think kids hearing their parents have sex at some point is pretty unavoidable. Can it be uncomfortable to hear someone else have sex? Yes. But why is that? Could it possibly be because of our socialization and not because it's some form of sexual assault? I agree with Ruethless on this one. Sex is a…

This sounds awesome. I'm just blown away by your comment because I think this is the kind of household I would like to have day and yet it's sort of frowned upon or not even thought about by so many people. So, kudos to you!

Exactly. I thought everyone knew it was just where the urethral sponge was, or rather that it's an area inside the vaginal canal that (for some/a lot of people) feels great to be touched/stroked. But, then again, grown women who have never masturbated or are curious about their sexual anatomy are always told something…

Are you from the Midwest? When I lived in Minnesota I discovered that everyone says "baggle." I say "baygel" and I'm originally from California.

Okay, can we stop talking about Mitten's sex and romantic life, please? So his wife brushes his hair. I brush my boyfriend's hair. I understand that it was weird to hear a grown man joke about needing his wife to do his hair because he can't, but it was a joke! One of those weird jokes older swinger men made circa…

You realize that you're literally taking quotations out of context, right? Anyway, I stand by my opinion that a lot of people working with kids are doing it because of the wrong reasons. Not all, not even most, but if you read the other comments on here, it seems like having at least one miserable teacher is pretty…

She wouldn't. That's absolutely the key to being hipster, is devaluing others opinions by using a self-assumed self-importance. That's what irks me is the pretentiousness, the assumption that I want to hear you talk about, essentially, how cool and cutting edge you are, but you don't give a damn about my opinions…

First of all, there's not just one variety of asshole. There's the guy that won't say he's a feminist because it's a dirty word to him, the lady who talks on her cellphone for the entirety of being rung up, the married man holding his baby with his wife checking out girls in short-shorts, the list goes on. I'm very…

I'm 20. I've figured out the difference between thick-rimmed-glasses-wearing young people who genuinely dig obscure stuff and people who condescend and follow whatever trendy band because they're self-absorbed kids who just want to talk about themselves. The former are a large part of my social group, the latter…

Seriously, learn how to read. Also, look up the word "context" - it will seriously help you. I know there are a lot of great teachers out there, which you would have seen if you actually read my comments throughout the thread. I did not say "most", and I often reiterated the theme that these were MY personal…