Do we really have to go the “thin people suck at sex because they’re twigs” route?

That resentment is no doubt encouraged even more by the way that patriarchy doesn’t allow us to be emotionally vulnerable, especially to other dudes. Women can be insecure around each other (within reason, I know there’s Mean Girl culture to contend with) whereas with us bros, we gotta bro out. Walk it off. Suck it…

I’m really saddened by the comments where people have written about hating themselves. Unless you are a murderer or something, don’t hate yourself. You are smart and you deserve to be loved and to enjoy your life. (I sincerely don’t mean for this to come off as flippant, or to suggest that it’s as easily said as it is…

You don’t have to apologize for not dating people you felt uncomfortable around. You aren’t “contributing” to anything but staying away when a red flag pops up.

Dude. One word: doggy.

WHO IN THE WORLD SAYS THINGS LIKE THIS TO OTHER PEOPLE?!?!

Have you tried another position?

I’m her exact same weight and size, and I’ve gotten tons of hateful comments about my weight. Granted, quite a lot of them have been online. But I’ve had guys moo at me in bars. Most of my exes have slammed my body and said they were only with me out of desperation... and that’s when I was technically skinnier.

I had that experience re: internet dating for a long, long time. Over the summer I met one that wasn’t like that though, and who still took care of himself and just enjoyed life. He was a big dude, and we didn’t really talk about it, but after a few dates and a few fucks he would make observations that I’d never even…

Are you Carl Sagan’s ghost? Because if you're not, you need to get out of my head. I empathize with you so hard. It's so hard to believe in yourself when no one ever has - it's so hard to find yourself attractive when practically every person in the world is telling you the opposite. Problem is, if you tell yourself…

Thank you for this. I have literally never seen someone who looks like me in a relationship, and that’s often the ammo the voices in my head use when they’re trying to convince me I'm worthless, so it's very helpful to have contravening evidence.

Okay. You’ve refused to engage with any of my arguments re: the subjective meaning of the word “fat.” That’s fine.

In all seriousness, I really needed to read this article. I pretty much hate myself, and can’t see any future where things turn out okay because I believe all the negative things that have been said. I’ve lost a bunch of weight, and regained it all in recent years, which probably hasn’t helped, and I know that I’m…

i am loving every single person on here having a shithole panic attack because someone suggested they think about why they don’t date fat people.

“I’m completely shocked that the substance of the article was ignored while fights broke out about who is or isn’t fat,” said no one.

I can’t believe how many of the comments are saying this woman (who has a BMI that is “overweight”) isn’t allowed to call herself fat. FFS people. You might not think she’s fat compared to you (which is a perfectly fine) but that doesn’t mean that she isn’t or that people walking down the street don’t judge her to be…

I just don’t fuck sad period...and don’t date crazies (didn’t say anything about fucking crazies)

So many amazing and thoughtful ideas in this post, yet everyone is focusing on her weight and how she thinks of herself as fat (which she says IS NOT A BAD THING). Way to miss the point.

I’ll have you know I’m CUDDLY not FAT.