It can happen when you least expect it. I was not looking for the father of my children when I met my husband. Far from it, I was living the Tinder life and having a grand time. But then there he was, and I was in love, and about a month into dating him we went to visit one of his good friends and her newborn. He’s an…

I was mixed on it too. I thought I could live a pretty full life either way. If I didn’t have kids, I could probably spend more money on things like travel, and be a bit more adventurous knowing that I’m not really responsible for anyone else. On the other hand, I like kids a lot and having them is it’s own kind of…

I never thought I wanted kids. But then I had one at age 42 and love her so much I’m blown away. I’m not going to say it’s all rainbows and unicorns (though both of those things are now much more prevalent in home than I ever thought possible) but I’m really glad I ended up here.

I did NOT want kids until I was 1) married 2)a homeowner 3) financially solid. I found myself accidentally pregnant (took birth control polls with antibiotics) and before I found out, kicked my live-in boyfriend out whom I dated for 5 years (and father of the baby). I was 25 and just started a new job. Holy fuck, I…

I was always pretty clear on not wanting kids. I still got broody as hell, though, which was confusing. Every spring in my 20s, like a goddamn farm animal, the hormones kicked in and I wanted me some babies. Even though, like, I really didn’t. I also nearly married someone with whom I thought I’d have kids. But I…

I thought I was on the fence but as my thirties progressed I realized that ultimately I had no interest in kids. The costs far outweigh the benefits to me and I’m a very pragmatic person. I have never regretted this realization and very much enjoy life sans children. List out the reasons why you want them vs. why you…

If anything, even knowing that someone else is feeling this way helps me feel better! and I hope it has helped you too :)

I have sort of the inverse of your conundrum. I 100% want kids but can’t seem to find anyone with whom I’d enjoy having them or the right time in my life for it to happen. My 5 year plan is all laid out but then pretty much ends with “and then I’ll want kids.” Anyway, in my experience, I know with all my heart that I…

I was never on the fence, exactly, but I wanted to keep my options open because I figured there was a solid chance I’d get baby fever at some point in my life. That point never came.

If you don't feel strongly, don't. Just be an awesome aunty. My husband didn't feel strongly (I did), and it's a shit show.

I feel you on this. It’s something I think about a lot too, and how I know my husband would like many kids, and I feel like it might be a betrayal if I were to decide, ultimately, that I don’t want any. Before we were married we obvs talked about this, and I’d always expressed I wanted one or two, but as the “time” to…

I think not having kids and then regretting that is better than having kids and then regretting having the kids.

I thought that I was on the fence until one day, during a discussion with my husband, I discovered that I was not. We aren’t having kids, and I love our freedom, our friends, and our hobbies. I have a fairly deep role in many young peoples lives through my job, and it is enough for me. I tend to think that it is a…

I feel like his vendetta against Canada is at least 90% because Justin Trudeau is attractive and astute with “good breeding” and Trump is jealous. Why would you want to endanger your relationship with our “hat”? Other to look strong and avenge people who lost jobs in the 90s to Canadians? It doesn’t make sense on any…

She’ll be back to beating the Trump drum when she returns to The View.

Can’t wait for when the Trump n-word tape comes out and she spends 10 minutes on The View shrieking at Whoopi about Jay-Z or something.

I’ve said it many times but, I’ll say it again. I freaking love this book, it was literally the most helpful thing for a prepubescent me. As an awkward person, i hated going to my mom with questions, and this really helped me feel ok with the changes i was going through.

This is the problem with GoFundMe. It is a really shitty way to care for people, it is a complete crapshoot if your page will get attention and if it does, and you get a crazy amount of money, there’s no guidance on how it should be spent. Our society would be massively better off with Universal Basic Income,…

I hope they're as happy as they seem to be; I find performative relationships extremely annoying though