Awesome! I never knew but I have missed her a lot!

And some of the “little shit”-ness, I feel like, is teenage rebellion against how they think they’re supposed to act (aka like decent people) and testing boundaries. Hopefully they get enough pushback from both peers and society that it becomes apparent that this is not the identity they want. Unfortunately, sometimes…

When I lived (temporarily) in Hanoi for work, I loved to go to Cafe Marilyn/Marilyn Cafe to read, drink coffee, and people watch. It was a little off-the-beaten-path, in that it was in a backpacker area but you needed to walk through a first-floor boutique to find the staircase to go to the second/third floor…

So long as you didn’t date the Brazilian au pair at age 12, you’re doing significantly better than your father. Good on you, AJ.

I was nine or ten when it started, but honestly I don’t remember. I looked like a high schooler (in that I had breasts and hips and an ass) in fifth grade. I was hit on by high schoolers at the pool at age ten, while playing with my younger brothers. I don’t even know when the catcalls and stares from cars started,…

Ok, now this random commenter can approve of your life choices. Y’know, because you cared in the first place <3

You’re so precocious for a baby, AJ!

We’ve gotta get you some better beer, Jia. There are so many better options.

SWIM FREE, LEFT SHARK! Katy Perry’s capitalist claims cannot keep you from our hearts and Etsy carts!

Or rather, 25.

Or Eatsteet.

The best dude I ever loved was totally ok with being a stay-at-home dad for potential kids, which was a major plus. I'm pretty career-oriented and wouldn't mind supporting a family, and I'm the one with multiple degrees. He's (now) ex-army and was willing to work but would have been just as happy at home with kids. It…

White and gold! How does this work?

I think Jamie Dornan was physically E.L.'s personal fantasy, but she clearly didn't look at his ability to project complete and utter control and/or domination. Or she was too lost in her own fantasies to see it...

I think that's on E.L. James. Apparently she had complete control over casting.

This book is one of my bibles — I refer to it so much in conversation, both online and with friends, because it highlights problematic and abusive dynamics so well, and makes it so clear that our cultural image of rapist/abuser does not dovetail with real life.

Burt, we love you so much! Congratulations on the new job, and I hope you can come visit us back on GT sometime.

We have control in rejecting, yeah, but in my experience, dudes get super weird if a girl pursues. They say they want a woman to step up, but then they get all intimidated.

I find a good cleaning tends to clear out frat boy ghosts, especially if you tell them they are responsible for their own clean up and that they can't leave until it's done to your stringent specifications. Then they're nowhere to be found!

If you bring beer, I'll bring the cider and the sparkling wine. We'll have a grand old time!