Awww, everything sounds cool! I really enjoy big weddings, and hearing about big weddings. It's just not for me.

My husband's ex kept the ring. And *she* cheated on *him* (it's a good story, but not mine to tell). It was his mother's ring.

Oh, I don't think there were protective orders involved re: my family court example. That's just a situation where she accuses him of shit all the time and none of it turns out to be true.

For what it's worth, it sounds awesome :) I can understand how you'd feel disconnected... I probably would, too. Anyway, I wanted to comment on your answer because you just sound so genuine and you bring up a good point that it's not always a clear yes or no. But it sounds like you guys made some amazing memories :)

Thanks - this was really well put. I just... I feel so angry and helpless when I learn more about how court works. No wonder domestic violence is such an unchecked problem... I wish this information was more commonly known (clearly you know what you're talking about... but I had no idea before I posted here and got…

I was asking a genuine question out of curiosity. My cheapie wedding was worth it - it suited our style and we had fun. We remember it fondly. And we feel good about it. I don't think it's a rude question at all, especially considering that this entire post revolves around asking people about their spending.

The more I learn, the more disheartening all of this is... I know I've given up on filing for an order because the person I'd file against lives in another country. They return to the states every year, and all hell breaks loose... and then they leave again. It's not worth it to get an order, so I just have to be…

Thank you - and I know it's not an easy question to answer 'cause hindsight is a tricky thing. I've got a friend planning a wedding right now and she's going through all the sticker shock right now... and I keep reminding her (nicely, gently) that she just needs to prioritize the things that she thinks are most…

Thank you so, so much for clarifying. God, this shit sucks :(

Geez, that's really fucked up.

Ah, I should have thought of that - thanks for bringing that up. I know in our state, it's totally free... and there are organizations that will cover attorney's costs. It really ought to be like that everywhere :( Nobody should have to worry about shit like that when they're suffering from abuse.

That makes sense... I guess I just naively thought that you could get it done for virtually nothing.

I'm sitting here like... woaaaah! I'm a cheapie wedding haver (I wanted to elope, but was asked to compromise), and most of my friends so far have had very large weddings - to the point where one couple had to move back in with parents less than a year after tying the knot. My personal opinion is that people should…

Why are restraining orders so expensive? I looked it up the other day for my state (I was considering filing for one) and they're free to file for... From my limited understanding, you just have to show up with proof that you're being harassed and you're good to go... (please correct me if I'm wrong, I'd truly like to…

I have 4 years before I reach my "hell no" age. We definitely want 1 more child (we have my stepkid and our one full-time kid). We've talked about it and we're thinking in the next 2-3 years - which is perfect.

I feel like they're trying really hard to make it accessible to people that might not "get it" while still making it an "aha!" for people that are quick on the uptake.

I just love it when women tell each other that they need to dress for men. Really, such a great message. I mean, God forbid if I wasn't constantly concerned about being sexy to my husband. That's why I hide all bodily functions, I never let him see me without makeup on, I shave everything daily if I'm not getting…

My husband wanted kids and still wants more - I can handle one more, so I'll give him that, but then we're done - and he was also the stay at home parent while I was (and am) our primary earner. We've always been super non-traditional about gender roles - he works, too, but he's self-employed so I'm the steady…

Tell you what - let's find two people for her to speak with... we'll start with a pro Dom/me and end with a survivor of domestic violence.

My skin is weird. It's more influenced by hormones and weather, I think. Anyway, I've found that birth control pills + rinsing my face thoroughly, with water, does the trick. If my face feels dry, I use Cetaphil moisturizer.