Preferred not to imagine this. A sex worker alleges that the Vegas shooter enjoyed rape fantasies, “aggressive and violent sex.”

You’re so right about something here, and it makes everything hard—there’s no guarantee that marriage, or coupledom, will get rid of loneliness. There’s no guarantee that being around people will, either. I’m lucky in that I wound up married to the best companion of my life, but I’ve seen so many relationships where…

Uhhhhhhh

You are most definitely wrong. Literally all of my clients go down on me. I can’t remember the last time one didn’t.

Non-clients do as well.

Uuuuuuuggggghhhhhhhhh groooooossssssssssssss

This is like nails against a chalkboard to the ears of hookers everywhere

You really nailed it. I cannot recall the number of times I was told how mature I was when underage, and being hit oon by full grown men. Or, when being told my age, they get more interested because they didn’t like older girls who had been “all around.”

We married almost two years ago and we’ve been a couple for nine years. We were both 55 when we married, and neither of us had been married before (no kids, either). When we met, we both had the thoughts of “Good grief, what’s wrong with him/her to still be single?” I suppose Mr. Cat and I were both late bloomers,…

I mean, it’s a heteronormative lapel liner. It can’t be.

yayy for you! Good luck on buying your vintage little gem! I too had to look a long time to find the layout of the home I currently live in - there were so many cookie cutter layouts that made me go “blah”. And even in the “worst case scenario” - you will recoup your costs if you wait it out. Example: my house…

The only secret couple I want to see finally go public is Jon Lovett and Ronan Farrow.

Unless you’re buying at the top of the market in a place like San Francisco etc., and you’ve looked at the comps from recent years (i.e. that the market value hasn’t risen drastically - meaning that you’re in a bubble section of the real estate market), then a home purchase is a good investment.*

Do you. If someone comes along later, you’ll figure it out then. If you get a lower-paying job, correct for that now by buying at the maximum you could live with on a smaller salary.

My guess is that they are already in an open relationship and have been for some time, he is just now letting her know.

Thanks for sharing this.

This is a good point. Thanks for sharing; sorry you had such a rough time. I was pretty skeptical that cheating=sexist automatically, and I guess I still am, but the way you laid this out is making me think.

so he could have everything he wanted.

Did you actually read her letter? She’s not saying her husband cheated. She’s saying that he gaslighted her for 20 years while he was a womanizer. There’s a big difference between committing infidelity and doing that. She says that she’s been diagnosed with complex PTSD since piecing together the truth.

This reminds me of the old adage: “Democrats screw women over personally, Republicans screw women over politically.” Many an overall helpful male turns out to be a cheating bastard at home. If I have to choose, and it seems that the Al Frankens and the Bernie Sanders and the Bruce Springsteens are few and far…

Not at all, you are totally right. I blame the holes all that ecstasy made in my brain. I really wasn’t a fan of either (no thanks, Seether) and I seem to have conflated them into one big ball of young feminist angst in my memory. I wasn’t into Alanis or Tori either; but oh boy did I love that Lisa Loeb song because…

Because of you, I’m pulling out my Boys for Pele this evening. Thank you for this!

I didn’t know hey was a “thing” that others had experienced until now but as soon as I saw it written here I could hear my ex’s voice saying it and I cackled because it used to drive me fucking batty when he would say it. He used to talk about the Ethical Slut all the time too and kink but it always came off as so…