This is going to be a shit show, because Stephen has a long history of being sexually manipulative, coercive, disrespecting boundaries and sexually harassing any woman he perceives to be dominant. We met through the NYC kink scene and used to be friendly, but he would NOT stop pressuring me to dominate him, talking…

There’s a GoFund Me set up for her here: https://www.gofundme.com/hz8sxq

It’s heartening to see how supportive some of the comments here are. These are backward laws that are going to do a lot of very real damage.

Her pearl clutching over him offering her money is really something. At least then she would have gotten something out of it. And there are far, far worse things than being a sex worker.

It isn’t just consensual sex workers who are opposed to this bill. Anti-trafficking groups and trafficking survivors themselves are also opposed to it. There are several good articles about that, and the bill in general, here:

Cool. So do other jobs that are seen as undesirable and where rape and sexual assault aren’t taken seriously also deserve to be criminalized - and have the consent, experience and truths of the workers interrogated by people who aren’t in their position?

Just a reminder to trans/gnc kids (and their parents and teachers): if you experience discrimination in your school, reach out to your local ACLU office, regional Lambda Legal Office (they have six offices nationwide that cover the entire country) or local LGBT center that might have legal services or cooperating…

Women who are arrested are also affected by cash bail and women who come into contact with the criminal legal system are disproportionately survivors of domestic and sexual violence. Keeping cash bail systems in place exactly as they are won’t keep women safe; it just criminalizes poverty and puts poor women who are…

Right?! I’ve seen men list themselves as “good catches” just because they still have their hair. Which is an extremely low bar but also just silly, since bald guys can be super hot.

Ugh I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, too. I read your other comments about age stuff and I *so* feel you. In 2016 had 7 dates, all with different men, who told me that I was pretty enough to sleep with, but too old to be their actual girlfriend. Some choice quotes:

Thank you. I’m fine with non-monogamy and was fine with him having other people in his life, I just wanted a little more time together, which I wouldn’t have asked for if he hadn’t said it was something he also wanted. I suggested we take things down to a more casual level - no more overnights, only hanging out if…

I think he’s handsome, but he’s not necessarily conventionally good looking. He is tall, though, and from what I’ve seen on men’s profiles apparently height is a big deal to some women. I fell in love with him because he’s smart and we had good banter and a lot of his weird matched my weird.....so I am guessing that’s…

Ugh this is gross. I just got out of a year long thing, partly because of dating apps, so I am already feeling so salty about them and this just makes it worse. Dude I was seeing had me and two other people he saw on a regular basis and I asked him to cool it with the apps so that we could spend more time together. He…

James Franco has been hanging on the fringes of queer, BDSM and sex work scenes for years, being a creep the entire time. He’s so lacking in any kind of identity or self worth of his own that he becomes an identity tourist, taking on anything that he thinks will get him attention and make him seem interesting. He has…

I love Drunk History so much. My favorites are Octavia Spencer as Harriet Tubman and Crissle West talking about Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera.

I knew it! In his statement, he said the story of his relationship with the woman is “much more interesting” than the one that was being told *and* also said that nothing really happened. I get that his idea of interesting is probably different than most, but how can nothing really happen and have an interesting…

Yes. This. I used to be a professional burlesque performer - as in it was something I did because I loved it but also aimed to make money from it, flew around the country to do it, etc. It was hard as fuck and I was thrilled the year I broke even, and even more thrilled the years I actually made a good amount of money…

I work on cases like these and it is immensely frustrating how hard it is to get any kind of justice. Anyone who has had a job for longer than maybe a month is eventually going to make a mistake (because we are humans and not cyborgs), which then can give a company a bs reason for discriminatory firing. Discrimination…

I volunteered for Hillary and had to walk past that place before and after every shift, because her Chicago headquarters was very, very close to there. I did phone banking and more than one person asked me where I was calling from and when I said Chicago, would ask if we had to look at that horrible building.

My mom passed away on New Year’s Eve in 2009, so I’ve spent 5 of the last 7 NYE doing the solo thing (there were two years of family things). I usually go to a yoga class because my mom was really into yoga, and then home to read, take a bath, eat snacks (cheese, French onion dip/chips, chocolate) and go to bed early.…