I’m in a “meh, sure” phase and I do this all the time. RIP.

God, we have so much in common. Especially the bit about feeling like a low weight was your greatest accomplishment in life. I’m still struggling hard to get to a place where I want something more than I want to be thin. It makes me hate myself because it makes me sound so shallow and because it’s made my life so…

Hey Miss Kitty, are you me? I went through that whole process as well, and ended realizing poly/etc just isn’t for me and THAT’S OK. I also, at 36, recently moved to a new city with a very different dating culture. I’m two months into a new relationship that may well be the one I have for the rest of my life. My guy…

Your story reminds me of where I was 20 years, at age 32. It finally dawned on me that it wasn’t being without a mate that was making me miserable, it was the pursuit of it, the endless yearning. I stopped looking, stopped dating in fact. I’m an introvert like you. I’ve lived alone almost all of my adult life. (I have…

There’s also this pervasive notion that compromise = settling. If you have to modify one behavior, or that if your partner can’t modify something about them, then you’re settling for the less than. She won’t look hot for me? I’m not settling! He’s perfect except that he won’t participate in my interests? Settling!

Harry looks a LOT like my father (must be a bald Jewish man thing). This made all sex scenes with him so uncomfortable for me to watch.

That scene where Harry and Charlotte meet again after they have broken up, and she realises she loves him so much. And there’s that beautifus Badly Drawn Boy song in the background. It’s so gentle and perfect and even if I saw it now I would cry. Harry FTW.

Regarding your first paragraph, you are extremely right that the onus is on the adult in this equation to refrain from engaging, regardless of how mature a minor may seem, in their decision-making abilities. I see people here presenting theories that this girl probably knew what she was doing, and that it’s wrong to…

What the hell did I just read?? I was having a hard time trying to decide which one of these assholes was the most repulsive, but I think I might’ve found a winner!

I knew Ted was an awful misogynist shitstain, but I wasn’t aware that he’s also a pedophile. Charming.

JESUS CHRIST. That’s just ...

“When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best. They’re not sending you. They’re not sending you. They’re sending people that have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists. And some, I assume, are good people.”

You can be mentally ill and still engage with white supremacy. You can be a victim of abuse and still engage with white supremacy. You can have had to make some difficult decisions and still engage with white supremacy.

It sounds like he isn’t that into you or that into having a relationship. A lot of the guys have “those problems” in the beginning due to nerves so I wouldn’t chalk that up to much. Maybe just take a giant step back. Someone mentioned Patti’s book. I think thats a good idea. Also “when men like bitches” which is…

Have you ever seen that Seinfeld episode about “hand”? You’ve given him all the hand, all the power. You think about how to respond, how to work around him, how to get more of him, how to get rid of him—but you are never the prime mover, the decider. And so you feel sort of helpless, which is a terrible feeling.

It’s okay, I feel like I’ve some stuff from being in those situations and my bullshit tolerance keeps lowering because of it-which is a good thing.

You’re welcome- I just got out of two situations that were kind of similar and I felt so much better about everything once I realized they were treating me badly and it wasn’t my fault and didn’t have anything to do with my value or worth as a person and I ended things.

I am a redhead who could not have possibly conceived in a trillion years that there was YET ANOTHER REASON TO HATE PATTI FUCKING STANGER

I think she’s jealous and projecting because Redheads are beautiful faeries. But yeah, her book is good. I love her Dating Detox.

I would break it off, because he’s not the guy for you. He’s been fairly honest in that he’s not into monogamy, so you only get slivers of attention when he feels like giving them. And GGG is the latest buzzword but that doesn’t mean much in itself—many people seem to see it as “I’m theoretically down for whatever so…