That didn't sound rude at all. I'm more than fine when people disagree with me :) I have had a lot of friends tell me that they actually like me over the years, but again, not many that either weren't truly my friend before or did not remain my friend after. It's perfectly logical to view someone as a friend for a…

Couldn't agree more :)

Not trying to be someone you're not really makes all aspects of life go a lot easier. I wish more people would realize that hahah

Oh, I see. Usually the "friendzone" indicates that the liked person is using the other person for emotional support and making him a "non-sex significant other" until a more attractive person comes along that can provide the emotional as well as the sexual for said person; then said person dumps "friendzone" person…

Tough love is the best love sometimes :/ I guess I just don't know him enough from one letter to pass judgement on whether he can improve or not. You're right, though; his actions are most certainly out of line.

I think she would honestly feel better if you told her how you feel. Even if she does feel a little guilt for a while, it's something that can easily be overcome, and if she doesn't feel the same way, you two can move past it if you feel like you can still be friends with her despite that. If she does feel similarly,…

Ugh, nice guy syndrome is a load of bull too. How about try to be a good guy instead of a nice guy? It's like the universe owes you something since you're nice every once and a while to get what you want. If you're a good guy, you understand the universe doesn't owe you shit and you're nice no matter what.

I guess his phrasing was a little off, but everything in the article suggests otherwise. Again, just because a concept doesn't actual exists doesn't mean a situation can't exist within its perimeters. The friendzone is more of the wrong way to look at a situation instead of the situation itself. I understand how we…

No joke. The last time we "spoke" I asked him if he realized how absolutely ridiculous he sounded. I told him to show this conversation to the next person he saw and ask if he was in the wrong or not. He apparently did show a mutual friend, and that mutual friend later told me that he made the guy out to be a total…

Use words. Lots of words. Touch with words lol

I think it really is an immaturity thing that thankfully most people grow out of (believe me, girls can believe in the friendzone too!). If a 13-year-old kid believes that, I'm more willing to forgive him and explain things nicely; meanwhile, if you're in your twenties, get over yourself dude.

While that might be true, I hope it isn't :( I don't wish ill on anyone and always think people can change when they want to.

Even if something doesn't exist, it has a definition. You know, like dragons. They don't exist, but when you hear the word, you know what one is. You can also look at a lizard and say its a dragon due to some similar characteristic, but you'd be totally wrong. It's that sort of thing :)

I really hope all of them do :) I try not to hold resentments towards anyone and really want everyone to be happy at the end of the day. The same for the Sad Invader above. I hope he takes this advice and is successful with the next girl he likes. Everyone deserves to be happy :)

It really is the worst and can definitely be applied to both genders. Some time away is always understandable, and if they ultimately can't be friends with you anymore, it hurts but you'll move on. The friendzone thing keeps everyone in a bad place though. It's just terrible :/

There it is! Congratulations, A+ from me <3

Kinja's a jerk to us all ;)

A very common phrase for those who believe in the friendzone is that they're a "nice" guy when they really are only "nice" when things are going their way. A "good" guy is nice no matter what when he cares about someone :)

I like that extended metaphor too! And I hate that whole "investment" thing too; that's why until we're in an honest relationship, I either insist on paying for myself or pay for everything entirely. I'm not going to feel ripped off if things don't work out since I'm an adult and most likely the guy I was going on…

See, that's the big thing. I always can tell something's wrong with a relationship when another person is threatened by "competition." I've always trusted my boyfriends around girls because I want the same trust around guys. If I start feeling something contrary, I'll be a good person and say as much. I know not…