You raise a very good point! She very well could have. In that case, it's the fault of both parties, though she didn't seem to have a very hard time becoming flirty with this other guy. I'd have to have more to say more hahah

I think we all feel that way hahah :)

Yeah, it could help him out in the future for sure :)

I have plenty of guy friends who have no romantic feelings towards me and vice versa! I honestly don't think it's as unusual as people think. I've had plenty of good experiences with "just friend" guys, so I'm very open to becoming friends with anyone and not expecting ulterior motives from them. And I've had many…

Taking it to a friendship isn't necessarily sad; taking it to a friendship where you're pining over someone and then blaming them when you miss out is.

I'm certainly not going to flame you, but honestly? With these four guys, I felt NO attempt on their part to "court" me, as you say. They acted the same way around everyone else as I saw, and at no point did I think "this guy is courting me, but I'm going to keep this friendship going anyway." There are girls (and…

I know, right? Great dating material. I really passed up an opportunity there.

I mostly do the b) advice now, actually. I do have to smooth things over with their significant others sometimes, but usually it's pretty freaking obvious I'm not interested in them romantically, so it works out.

*psssst much better; try to say something nice that's actually kind of threatening next time too; that'll make me really like you*

While I think this is fine, honestly just saying, "Look, I had a great time talking tonight; do you think we can do it again sometime over dinner?" would've worked just fine too. If she says yes, then she's interested and you can initiate at least a little physical contact and feel it out from there. No one uses that…

It sounds a little removed, but it's true. I want someone who likes me for who I honestly am: someone who puts their mind towards anything they find valuable (including relationships!) but also has enough free will to put herself first when she needs to. I want the person I'm with to be the same way. If we break up,…

See, you screwed up again! You can't blame yourself! It's obviously my fault for not liking you, not that you had unrealistic expectations of me or only befriended me to ultimately get in my pants! Man, I'm gonna have to coach you.

Nope. You gotta at least pine after me for two years while pretending to be my friend before you make a move, then get really angry and bitter after I reject you since I only viewed you as a friend. Get it right, man ;)

I know, right? Don't get me wrong, not every guy who is friends with a girl who likes her is only her friend because he likes her. I have a childhood friend who was my friend for years, ended up liking me, and then actually did something about it! I just get along with guys better than girls on average, so I do really…

Not personal at all! The first guy asked me out when we were both 15. I wasn't into dating yet, so the rejection wasn't personal in the slightest. He responded this way at the time, which I guess was understandable at his age, but then proceeded to do this with at least three of my girlfriends up into our twenties…

It really is a way to blame anything and everything else other than looking at yourself, huh? People who believe in this concept probably apply that logic to all things in their life. Didn't get a good grade on this paper? Oh, well, the teacher kept me up late with other homework or my roommate wouldn't stop playing…

No worries :) Get as off-the-comment as you want! Yeah, I think the liked-person always feels a bit of guilt rejecting someone, especially when they value that person as a friend. It's an awkward situation, and we truly don't want to hurt that person in any way, which we know our rejection is doing; and a lot of…

Oh okay! Absolutely agree with that then. Sorry I misunderstood :) I definitely think that no matter what you'll feel upset when and if you are rejected, and that's definitely natural. By saying, "Look, I don't think I can be friends with you anymore because of my feelings," you are not placing the blame on her and…

I agree in that they are more than allowed to feel hurt. Believe me, I've definitely liked guys and it hasn't worked out. That's one thing. I've also been asked out by friends who were truly my friend before realizing they had feelings for me and, even after rejecting them, were able to maintain a friendship that is…

I think all people in grade school feel that way at some point just because a lot of times you were friends with the person you had a crush on, so you never actually misled them in anyway. These feelings are something people should grow out of as they mature, though. Unfortunately a lot of people don't, so good for…