C’mon guys, stop being so pessimistic. What you call a dollar fifty a week is actually a one million dollar tax cut over 12,777 years.

A dolla fitty buys at least one pair of bootstraps.

For just $1.50 a week, you can help an American secretary pay for her Costco membership. Won’t you please help?

Those $1000 bonuses are bullshit too. For Walmart you have to have worked for them for 20+ years. Walmart isn’t known for the longevity of its associates, most workers will only see $250 or less. Walmart should have used their tax savings on upping overall wages.

Talk to any Trump supporter and they will claim that $1.50 a week is a big deal. I reminded my mother that $1.50 is less than a diet Coke and she still defended it as big savings.

I read that Tweet and though it was a typo. “Maybe he meant $150 a week or it went up $1.50 an hour (still a crumb but...)“

Maybe? If you pushed past women’s boundaries in sexual situations and didn’t attempt to pay attention to whether they were enjoying themselves or listen to the words they were telling you (because remember, she told him several times that she wanted to slow down and was uncomfortable), then yes, your behavior was…

Similar thing happened to me; I totally froze, just in disbelief that it was happening. I snapped out of it when he pushed too far (said I had to go do laundry, it was not smooth), and sometimes I wonder how much longer it would’ve gone on if I hadn’t.

This sounds so backwards to me. Men being concerned about their partners’ feelings should not just be a temporary mid-term goal. I think it’s reasonable enough to say that men should be paying attention and caring (the caring is an especially important part!) about whether their partners are enjoying themselves AND…

No one is advocating “threatening” men. But if you repeatedly ignore or push past people’s sexual boundaries, your behavior may rightfully be seen as predatory. Taking what you want from people without regard for their wellbeing is predatory by definition. And it’s clearly something many people have gotten away with…

Why can’t it be both? I think we need to be telling men to be less shitty, and women to be more assertive. It is discussed all the time how women are socialized to be polite and pleasing, and it is time to reverse and undo and never reinstate that shit. It is also time to reverse and undo and never reinstate all the…

That’s the thing. I don’t think it was so obvious to him. That’s why I think the conversation is about two legal and consenting adults continuously setting new boundaries and talking clearly and plainly, especially during the first handful of encounters, with each other. That’s where I envision change in these…

I’ve been in Grace’s situation with a few differences... I was 17 and a virgin. He was 20 and not a famous person. Bottom line is we got together and it became very apparent that he wanted sex. I did not want sex, and I completely froze. I couldn’t exactly leave because we were in my dorm. Where was I going to go? I…

Why not both? I don’t have kids yet but if I have a girl, I’m going to teach her to stand up for herself and protect herself. If I have a boy, I’ll teach him to respect women and get consent (and vice versa). Just because it’s not her fault regardless of the steps she took to protect herself doesn’t mean we women have…

I’m not sure discomfort is actually as obvious to others as it is to the uncomfortable person. I spent my college years going limp and silent when my boyfriend tried to go farther than I wanted. I thought of this as negative reinforcement. But to a 19 year old boy, focusing his attentions on some cool new experience,…

EXACTLY. I bet a lot of women can say the same thing. I know I can.

Why?? Because we need to stand up for ourselves and stop putting ourselves in uncomfortable and maybe even dangerous situations just because we are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings.

Jameela Jamil wrote an excellent piece on this; here is a brief quote:

We both need to stop being polite to men who do shit like Azis (which has happened to me) and men need to stop just thinking with their dicks and start checking in with their partners.

I think that reinforces the point though — the conversation here should be a lot more nuanced and handled more deftly. I’m in my 30s now and I know how to say no, but pretty much throughout my 20s as I explored my sexuality I consistently ran into situations that I didn’t know how to handle. There’s a lot of pressure…