As a current Minnesotan transplanted from another state, I have a few theories:

Did the drink fling really happen or did I see another instance of men being given an “out” like being spit on (Ray Rice), or provoked to a physical beating unequal to the initial “offense”?

I’m a glutton for punishment, so I read the comments on NPR’s Facebook post about this, and the dudebros are in an uproar over this.

“If you’re a bitch, you’re probably not going to like us,” he says. “If you’re a ho, you probably don’t like us. If you’re not a ho or a bitch, don’t be jumping to the defense of these despicable females. Just like I shouldn’t be jumping to the defense of no punks or no cowards or no slimy son of a bitches that’s men.…

I met my husband in a Yahoo chat room. Two reasons why no one slides into my DMs (married and old).

A lot of my husband’s older relatives comment on how wonderful and amazing it is that he is so involved with our kids because their dads were never involved with them. I find myself struggling. Not because I don’t want to give my husband credit for what he does do because he is a great dad and husband, but I don’t…

THANK YOU. I’m so tired of the conversation about parental leave and family-friendly policies totally ignoring the fact that paid leave is almost exclusively available to white collar employees, and that it is treated as a job perk to attract talented high level employees. Microsoft didn’t do this because they care…

Interesting reply from a woman last night who works at one of the companies that has done this. She said in actuality the policy doesn’t work the way it’s written. Punitive atmosphere due to corporte culture that frowns upon actually using any of your personal life benefits. I’ll wait and see how this policy plays…

How to start your day like Mocena:

Oh hooray. The first Stonewall movie is about a fictional white gay male. This erases the BLACK trans woman who actually was the first to throw something (Marsha P. Johnson, if you’re wondering). It erases all the dykes who were being raped and arrested and who fought on the front lines of basically every important…

Nopes!

Here is the number #1 (no pun intended) rule of etiquette for multi-stall bathrooms: If you are done with your business and the other door that was shut when you got there is still shut, someone is holding onto their poop for dear life, praying that you will hurry up and leave. Please move along. Hopefully someone…

This movie was overrated 20 yeas ago, probably hasn’t aged well. Plus, this was one of those good but brutal “if you’ve endured it once, you NEVER need to see it again” movies, like Requiem for a Dream.

kara, you have to let us know when he blocks you on twitter.

But like, so do half my friends. Sooooo....

Never Forget:

1. THOSE J. JILL SHOES OMG

Seriously. Good for you, but don’t humblebrag.

Don't humblebrag, it's unseemly.

I grew up pretty broke and use those sell by dates as a guideline. Mostly I do a “sniff” test or poke around at the food and observe the texture. My husband grew up upper middle class. He acts like the sell by date is the law. Also anyone else grow up just cutting mold off cheese instead of throwing the whole piece…