Jesus. It explains a lot as to why my main anxiety about having children isn't the child - but other parents.

I empathize strongly with the childless by choice, because I've been so badly treated for having an only. Among the comments I used to receive when our kid was younger:

i don't agree but ok.

I get a new one because I have a right to have an orgasm. If he can't deal with the "pressure," he needs therapy, not to use my body without having the ability and willingness to get me off. It's not rocket science. It's actually not that difficult. You just need to give a damn. If you don't, you're history. And if…

i'm "sex-shaming" now too? bc i'm not interested in fellatio? sex-shaming would be considering you blowjob-givers —of all sexual orientations—as gross (which i don't).

what about guys for whom eating a woman out is a fantasy? I don't like giving blow jobs but when I started dating my boyfriend he told me that one of his fantasies is eating his partner out and having her sit on his face, is it more selfish of me to be eaten out even though I don't reciprocate or to deny him his…

I don't get that impression. She wants to be eaten out, this dude wants to eat her out, end of story. Like, if she told the dude "Eat me out and then I'll blow you" and then didn't, she'd be a kind of shitty person, but that's not at work here.

"body-shaming"? i think you assumed that i found penises disgusting. no,i don't find them disgusting; some of them can be cute. we humans do not have to like any and everything that comes out of the human body. am i participating in "body-shaming" since i think that human waste's disgusting?

ffs, get in line with every man in the world who's been all like, But you wouldn't say that if it was a woman! YES WE WOULD, THAT'S THE GODDAMNED POINT. If he doesn't want to go down, he's a human being with his own mouth parts, he's under no obligation. Jesus.

Yes I agree. But is interesting-at least to me-what we-women-are willing to negotiate doing during sex times with a man, and that is what I took away from this. I mean, Woman are expected-by men or other women or society-to be willing and able to do everything in sex, while men......not so much. It's a lot of pressure…

Selflessness isn't treating other people well. It's doing things that don't involve mutuality and can have it's own real problems. And it's not reciprocity—that goes both ways, with the expectation of mutual growth and pleasure—it's about growing together and serving the relationship rather than just the other person.…

Damn man. You still mad you paid all that money for the date and didn't get your dick sucked that night? Next time try not to be so boring on the date and MYABE you can get some. Of course, if she wants to give you some.

I think everyone would be happier and more sexually satisfied if we were honest with each other about what we want and don't want

you're "enraged" by women who think that fellatio's gross? i think that fellatio is one of the most disgusting vanilla sex acts out there. i'm actually glad to see that several other jezzies share the same opinion.

Yes. Not wanting to provide a maximum amount of pleasure to your partner kind of pisses me off, and usually guys don't want to do it because they think it's "gross" which enrages me to the point I want to throttle them.
I get equally enraged if women think giving blowjobs is gross (not if they think having a guy cum in…

Yeah, I mean, what the fuck is this shit? I feel like I might be disproportionately angry about this, but it's an attitude I've encountered a few too many times. NO ONE is obligated to perform any sex act they don't enjoy, or just don't feel like doing, or what have you. And there are plenty of men who don't give a…

Right? 'Oh no guys! I looked at the world's blowjob inventory and there are missing blowjobs! We counted them all! A few are missing. Why isn't this cat lady coming up with the missing blowjobs?!"

Same here. If you know that's the price of admission, why is everyone complaining? Just don't date her if you want a blowjob. It's that easy.

I saw this last week, and the whole thing just enrages me. The fact that she doesn't want to do it but expects men to eat her out (Tracy, you make hella good points about why that's okay, and I'm a lot less pissed about it now but I was seeing red last week). The fucking disgusting misogynistic responses to it, like…

As long as both parties are cool with it, I see no problem.