Some of you have witnessed the last year of me waiting for my hard work to pay off and for things to actually start moving: work, divorce, moving out of my folks’ place, building a life somewhere rather than floating in limbo.

This week has been a FUCKING ROLLERCOASTER! Everything has started moving at a wild pace…

I’m pretty relentless about reclaiming places after horrible breakups. I will make a plan and bring a friend or two there on purpose to make some good memories with good people. It works pretty well.

“But I heard her talking openly about sex to, with and about someone else, that means she has to do sex with me RIGHT NOW! THAT’S HOW IT WORKS!”

THIS! Some people don’t change size or shape however much deliberate exercise they do. I disagreed with and distrusted all deliberate exercise until trauma sent me to a local boxing club. I have now been boxing for long enough to become fast and strong and (according to the club) accomplished enough to begin coaching…

I enjoyed the trailer, sure, but if watch a film with this description any day of the week, sight unseen.

This is the most wonderful news rat! I’m so pleased you updated. Sometimes I feel like I have to wait till next week’s SNS to share/find out what happened next!

Yoh could always go rogue and deliberately use emojis that are almost-but-not-quite accurate. You know, just to keep folks on their toes!

Caftan Island sounds like heaven. The activity programme is most of my favourite things. I volunteer to grow plentiful fruits and vegetables, look after the beehives and get a little vineyard/winery started.

I’m not gay, or a man, but I’ve been there. And I agree. There are plenty of people who are more than happy to be someone else’s dirty little secret, hell some folks get off on it! If someone is determined to be a cheat and risk destroying their partner and partnership then they should at least find a willing…

I concerned things with a guy I was seeing because, although he’d crack a smile every now and again, the man NEVER FUCKING LAUGHED. Look buddy, I do ridiculous shit all the time and I roar with laughter at myself. If you don’t laugh with me I feel embarassed and judged.

I’m currentlytrying to divorce a man with a very small stretcher in each ear and a srptum piercing. I would absolutely say that the hidden, abusive personality was more of a problem than the face jewellery but he had 'em and that's science!

I feel the same way about spelling and punctuation, although I appreciate sensible and illuminating use of emojis. I was with someone who did not share a fluent language with me and, honestly, emojis allowed us to communicate far more effectively. Also, the little dancing people are very good at expressing excitement…

I’m in the process of getting divorced but I’m 33. I enjoy floating around in either of my caftans and I love a good stitch’n’bitch as depicted in your second photo. Please can I join your club as an honorary member? I know I’m too young but I promise I’ll behave...

I spent half my 20s with a drummer and (by proxy) a whole bunch of self-identified "musicians" and sweet mother of self-absorbtion I'd never date a "musician" again. People who play an instrument: absolutely. But no drummers. Top of the list would be bass players; good rhythm, humble, essential to the band but no…

Technically rubbing isn’t as bad...less trauma to the skin and therefore lower infection risk. They advise it over scratching for eczema sufferers who just can’t leave it alone so I say well done for keeping your fingernails out of the game. I find a sharp ping with an elastic band helps too but that might just be me! 

Glad you’ve been able to save a bit...living on a knife edge is so relentlessly exhausting and miserable, isn’t it.

I have never heard of this but it sounds like magic, I’ll see if it’s available in the UK (otherwise I will power through like the extraordinarily strong and disciplined individual I am LOL)

Oh that sounds so hard my dear, but well done you for getting through it.

Thank you Maya, I agree with you about coming back to a small, isolated world having had a taste of light and sound and colour. I will do my best to follow your advice and take it one infuriating moment at a time.

Valid question, I wish I had a science answer. I’d guess no because, like with a mosquito bite, it will increase blood flow, inflammation and therefore itching. I’m trying not to scratch a burn that is healing and having mixed success. Hope it stops itching soon!