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Hugs to you too.

Thanks, doing pretty well these days. Happily divorced and totally missed my wedding and divorce anniversaries this year which made me chuckle. Those dates no longer hold nay significance for me.

Yup. Often people ask me some version of “But you’re smart, you’re intuitive, you pay attention and you know bout feminism and boundaries and shit, how did YOU end up the victim of domestic violence?”
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My rule is: if he doesn’t have one of these by the sink then

Apparently this means blowjob and I feel old

No Ma’am. I am not trained or qualified for that at all. Hope you can notice the light returning (we’re over a month past solstice now!) and that it carries you through the bitter cold for as long as it lasts

Fantastic news! I’m a year and a bit post-divorce-from-abusive-ex-husband and I can tell you it gets better and better. Congrats on the summer job.
It may feel weird to be celebrating good things while the world is on fire, it felt weird to me when I had good news. If this is the case then please give yourself a… Read more

Into the light! I am so thrilled to see you living the life you’ve been dreaming of and deserving. Big love

How happy Darwin looks, and how brilliant that you have him during a weird fucking time for everyone, not least for someone in the thick of it as you are. I’m glad you have him, and the ocean, and a place to land and call home. I’m 5 months in my “new” place and am still doing bits and bobs (the last couple of weeks… Read more

That is making my mouth water Cheers, I can smell it!
I finally found an Asian supermarket in my new (in pandemic terms 5 months is still new, ok?) city so I’ve just made a load of sushi. I’m not fucking around with raw fish so I substitute smoked salmon for raw and make fiery wasabi tuna mayo...it’s absolutely not the… Read more

$5 for an hour of gentle encouragement to trust your gut and get sleep when you can....there could be a market for this

When I started considering divorce (UK so not the same system, I know) I spoke to a number of firms over the phone and arranged free 45 minute consultations with the ones I liked the sound of. I found that a face to face conversation which I didn’t have to pay for really helped with the anxiety I felt about the whole… Read more

I agree with the comment below about new traditions. I spent passover with a friend in Israel once, her first without her kids who had gone to their father’s for the holiday. So many friends kept inviting us to seder, insisting that neither of us should miss it (me as a first timer, her as a first time alone-r) and we… Read more

What heaven! The puppy, the beautiful place, the distance from the clusterfuck of the US, all of it. I often think of you and the bartender with a smile, enjoying the new dream you both worked and waited and longed for. Read more

HOORAY FOR YOU! These victories are hard won and precious, and unlike my own personal narcissist a few years back I don’t think you can just divorce this one. Step by step, one deep breath at a time, you’ve got this. I’m so hopeful for you and your partner that this is the first step towards eventual freedom.

That bread looks wonderful!
Our wild kids were so disrupted by the outbreak and subsequent 2 week shut down that we’ve just been doing lots of festive TLC with them. Our classroom looked like Father Christmas had thrown up all over it and we did so many crafts. I made a tiny (< 2 inches across) “gingerbread” house out… Read more

Thank you my dear

Oh, to be called “Darling heart” by you! My sister and I have been calling eachother that for years, it started as a joke and it’s become one of my favourite terms of endearment. Thank you for the words and the hugs, all gratefully received.

Thanks, yeah it’s completely unintentional I beleive but sadly the intent doesn’t alter the impact. The damage is done whether you meant to do it or not, like running someone over.

This is very true, and I’m very grateful for a doctor who listens, beleives and rolls up her sleeves to try and get to the bottom of it.