This isn’t much assistance but just on hidden fees I was talking to a client at work who looked at a venue for an August (Australian winter) wedding and the venue wanted $160 to light the fire in the dining room. Not to cover the cost of the wood, just to strike a match. It’s ridiculous. I’m not married but if…

I don’t get that either. I never wanted bridesmaids at all but my partner does (although I think it’s just because he doesn’t know any different). Not that we’re engaged. If I do concede absolutely I will insist we pay for the dresses, shoes, hair, makeup etc. I would much rather not have a bridal party, then they can…

My Grandad had terminal cancer and this is what happened in the last weeks of his life, all medication ceased except for morphine for the pain, and I believe that he had a say in that. I hope that his passing was a painfree as it could be and that he went peacefully. I hope that if I was in that situation I could be…

I’m so sorry for you and your mother, it is a terrible disease. My mother is young and healthy at this point in time but she has told me in no uncertain terms that if she ever is in a similar situation to your mother she would like the right to die. It is illegal still where I am to have an assisted suicide but there…

It’s great that you’re seeing someone, I hope that they can help you. It is quite incredible the way that people are drawn to certain people and I’m so sorry that you were one of them for her. It doesn’t mean that you are going to be a target for every other personality disordered woman/man out there, I promise! Good…

Hehe don’t make any promises :p I hope it goes well for you and the bride! I guess you could introduce her to the most chatty relative for a while and hope that does the trick if you run out of options!

That’s great, it sounds like you’ve got it sorted :) I hope everything goes well!

Yep, I’m the same. Granted I’ve only had one boyfriend who I’m still with but we split everything. He wanted to pay the first time because he did the asking but I bought the second one or got the drinks. It all worked out equal in the end.

I have never been in this situation but maybe run interference if she won’t listen to reason? If you can talk to her and tell her to shut that shit down then go ahead, but if you feel that’s too risky I would distract her all day with “important” tasks that need doing if at all possible. Or slip her a chillout drug.…

Bad luck, I saw it! :p If you can I really suggest going to see a psychologist to talk some of these issues through. I am so sorry that this person did this to you, it’s possible that she sensed your vulnerability :( these types usually do and exploit it. It is most definitely not your fault for choosing to trust her,…

I would see a psychologist who does CBT, not just a counselor. A good one will not label you or lead you into a diagnosis (well at least you won’t know what it is) and will listen when you say that social anxiety doesn’t fit your profile and you don’t feel it is the case. You should know after a session if there is…

I think that it’s definitely something that can be worked on over time if you are both prepared to put in the effort. He sounds like a nice guy and the fact that he was worried and apologetic is both a good and a bad thing. I definitely think a low pressure show and tell might be good, all those usual things during…

Mine is exactly the same and I’m only 22. I’m super dreading the next 15years (maybe Facebook won’t last that long, but whatever comes after). Unless I get there first :p

We do that with our cat and the ferrets :p

Congrats on being engaged! That’s awesome! I guess saving that energy for your fiance if he’s around would be pretty great :p I am not above a “bathroom break” either, it’s a totally viable option! I couldn’t think of any so I figured it was a long shot. Thanks for the response though! We’re monogamous and clean too…

That sucks majorly :( Hopefully this is the end of it now and you can work on healing, what you described sounds terrifying and it’s completely understandable that it would take time to recover from. I’m so mad at this “Steve” and people in general who have the power to destroy good things for other people through…

That majorly sucks :( If possible I wouldn’t be apologising for anything but I know it doesn’t work like that all the time. I hope that you can find a space with your new, nice friends (or create your own). I also hope that this guy doesn’t pull the same shit with someone who isn’t as aware as you :(

Fingers crossed for you and your Husband(?) that today there is some good news! You’d think the church would want everyone to be married so things like that wouldn’t happen :p Good luck!

That sucks :( I’m sorry. My asexual friend is in love with someone who isn’t (and is also recently in a relationship) but at least it’s easier for her because she’s not interested at all in the sexual aspect which she knows she can’t give. In your situation it’s a bit more difficult I think. Best of luck to you in…

It’s so weird. It sounds like he’s a very skilled manipulator and I’m not surprised he’s done this before. Why it has been dismissed/covered is weird. It always seems to me like in gaming communities especially they can be more accepting which is great, but if someone is socially awkward that is completely different…