I am so sorry. There is no reason why your parents would just hand her over to him, though. They were supportive 13 years ago. They have been supportive. And, your daughter is 12, very close to the age when she is allowed to state where she wants to live, and who with. You can’t redo the past, but you can take care of…

A little over 13 years ago I was in a marriage so dangerous and abusive that I had to essentially escape with only a suitcase of belongings. Living in Germany with no support from the military was horrific. The JAG office wouldn’t help me get a separation, and said I’d have to get my husband to request it instead. It…

Seriously. I’m not sure how accurate they are (as is the case with any study), but some “studies have shown” that men who consume large amounts of porn can’t even get it up for “real” women anymore. They look at a certain very unrealistic ideal and no flesh and blood woman can fulfill that fantasy.

I feel really terrible about how I first reacted to her and realized that I have a lot of internalized misogyny. She didn’t deserve this treatment and people have no idea how hard it is to come forward about your wealthy and powerful husband with international fame abusing you. This has shown me that attitudes about…

I was totally cringing while watching that too! Those elastics were way too tight.

But the thing is, none of the scenarios matter. Not in the least. Nothing that has happened with this guy in the past is at all relevant anymore. He lied to you; he gaslighted you; he scammed you emotionally, and your mother as well. You are done and out of there, like a cartoon character with lines streaking out…

i believe he was convincing. i found my ex passed out with bags of heroin laying next to him and when he said he wasnt high i believed him. but lookng back on that, i realize it’s because i had to choose to believe him, or i would have to give up the guy i loved. what i’m saying is you made a conscience choice to go…

I’m so sorry this happened to you. It is truly horrifying. Everyone here seems to have given some sage and compassionate advice. All I want to add is that a key part of healing when you’ve been lied to for so long is learning to stop looking for or making excuses for why the manipulative person acts the way they do.…

I hate to be blunt as fuck, but he played you for two years, and you may have to accept that to get the closure you need. Honestly, someone promising to be with you for the rest of your life and saying that they love you is an easy lie to tell. Maybe he did have affection for you, but it was never priority 1 for him.

“It’s been 9 days, and I’m so scared that he’ll never contact me again, and I’ll never have the closure I need.”

You don’t seem angry, I think you should be angry. You kinda sound like if he called you and was all “baby baby baby” at you and “left his wife” you’d take him and girl, that’s not a good place to be. Maybe he’s doing you a favor by blocking you, no contact with this manipulative fucker is definitely the way to go.…

This is going to sound harsh, but I couldn’t think of a nice way to say this.

How are you liking OKC? I tried out Bumble this summer, and it was chock-full of white dudes who wouldn’t give me the time of day, even when we both swiped right.

Stranger Things is really good.

I feel like I’m a complete loser?! Everyone I know on Facebook, Instagram friends and in real life has plans this weekend. All I see are lake houses etc. I’m doing nothing. NOTHING AT ALL, all weekend.

The redemption of Matthew Knowles and Jay Z, at least in the narrative of Lemonade, reminds me of the end of The Color Purple. Only once Shug, Nettie, and Celie start getting the respect they deserve from the men who have harmed or betrayed them, are they welcomed back into their lives as a large, chosen, family. So…

People forget that actors are egomaniac narcissists of varying degrees. The longer you’re in the business and not connecting with the real world, the more you start to believe in your own importance as a tool of spreading knowledge. That’s true for stage actors, too.

And it takes a shady narcissist to listen to all the critiques of her portrayal of Simone but hear “you’re too pretty to play Nina Simone.” Nope, that is not the problem.

I thought there were no people of color, Zoe Saldana??????

Zoe Saldana is the fucking worst. Just STOP, girl. You clearly don’t get it.