I let my 13 yo daughter throw her first coed party at our house last night. A few things: (1) I left her dad 2 years ago, and we were living in a tiny apartment. I found a great rental house, and we moved here in August. She’s so proud of it that she wanted her friends over. Also, my ex was raised by a hoarder, and he…

I am learning about John Gottman of the Gottman Institute, who has studied couples from the 1970s. He is the premiere researcher on relationships and their success. He’s the bomb.

It’s not selfish and it wouldn’t prevent him from moving on—if he wants to move on, he’ll move on, and knowing that you’re still concerned about him won’t stop him—but it won’t help you in the long run. Giving in to the impulse to check up on his safety will just reinforce your own sense that you’re not able to bear…

Thank you for sharing this - glad you are proud for saying something! That takes a lot of energy and courage, and isn’t easy.

Duuuuuude that is a shitty ass day! I’m so sorry and I’m glad that grandma was there for you. I’m inspired to try to practice more grandma behavior.

Your act of kindness outshines but the rudeness of the joke and the petty lecturing you received later.

My partner had very bad teeth like you describe. It cost him 30k over two years to fix it, in Canada. Crowns and implants andveneers are alll so expensive, he ended up taking out a loan to handle it. 5 years later his teeth at so pretty, but there is frequently issues. Veneers breaking or implants failing to take.

“So I get my coffee and then try to hand her the $5 and she says they cannot take tips at a Target Starbucks, so... I was like, “Well, you have a good day, I know you are working hard and thank you.” The other barista working says something about, “What was that about?” and as I’m pushing my cart away the barista I…

I’m sorry about your grandma. I’m a sad pile of sad today and just reading that busted the dam. Tears in my ears crying. Grandmas can really be the best (met one today!) and that just sucks.

I know...it’s like, come on, universe! I know you want to see this shitstain go down like the vile cosmic joke that he is—BRING ON THE TAPES!

This, a thousand times over. I had a magnesium deficiency, which is hard to test for as it doesn’t show up in bloodwork. I’m very routine with my vitamins so it was a shock at first but adding in an extra supplement made me feel like an entirely different person.

A few years ago I was on Facebook and noticed a former coworker I didn’t really know that well but had courtesy-friended who had recently moved out of town had just uploaded a bunch of pics of his new city. There was some interesting looking architecture in the album so I was merrily clicking through the pics when I…

I’m sorry. Dating sucks.

At a 1981 press conference in which she was asked: “Do you teach the poor to endure their lot?” She replied: “I think it is very beautiful for the poor to accept their lot, to share it with the passion of Christ. I think the world is being much helped by the suffering of the poor people.”

Girl. I feel you so hard right now. I went out with a guy on several dates, he cancelled the next one with the “flu”, and then I never heard from him (I posted about it a few weeks ago). Like you, I am so so confused. It really sucks when you have absolutely no idea what happened on their end. Others have given you…

So at 48, this is what I can say: some folks have advised you call or text him; I totally don’t recommend it. You know what reality is, and you know exactly what you are witnessing; you are not imagining this. Every time we keep reaching back out to someone who is not reaching for us in equal measure, it becomes more…

Aw, I’m sorry you’re feeling low. If you sent him a message saying you felt like he wasn’t super interested in you and you wanted to know for sure, his choosing not to respond was his (shitty) way of giving you his answer. Take him at his word (or lack of words), take the time you need to get over the sting and if you…

My brag..... at 54 I finally took one part of the CPA exam. I in no way think I passed it because I just started studying (ish) at the beginning of August. For the last year and a half I’ve had some study tools but never could get into studying. BUT what I am proud of is that..... I took the test. I didn’t wimp out.…

Great question. In my experience, fireworks on the first date mean the relationship/ sex will be great but will eventually sizzle out. My best relationships have started as friendships, then slowly growing attraction then hot kissing and sex. It’s worth the wait. It takes time. I’m at the “ ready to grab and kiss him”…

Whoo— do I ever have a lot to say on this subject! First, it’s really hard to know anything about a person from a first date. People are nervous, guarded, etc. I like to think of them as a screening test to determine if the other person has very basic social skills, some level of self-awareness, and a sense of…