Oh yeah. I gave up white and light grey for the same reason. I'm a sweaty bastard normally and I live in SW Florida now. Sweat is just gonna happen no matter what I do.

Those yellow pit stains aren't from your sweat. It's the aluminum in your anti-perspirant that causes that.

Nothing at all to forgive. In fact, reading my initial thoughts on this I realize that my gut reaction was to defend the guy and by default blame the girl. I actually LOVE posts like this because it does challenge me to re-think what I've posted and to evolve beyond my thinking. There are many interesting perspectives…

Well, thank you. It's open dialogue like this that prevents breakdowns in relationships. OK, Sarcasm aside, I'm not sure what post of mine you're reading, but I am very critical of this guy and the way he handles this situation too. It's not just about sex. It's about a communication breakdown and childish behavior -…

And you are free to concoct your own opinion. That's what we do here. Welcome.

But there'd be a lot of great, angry sex.

I understand that. What's your point?

Why does HE have to fix the "I'm tired" part f the equation. She hasn't expressed an inequality in the relationship. And if she feels there is one, then she needs to bring that up at least once instead of simply saying she is too tired, etc. I'm not saying that there isn't an inequality in the balance of the chores,…

Oh, agreed. He is a complete dick for ignoring her calls. This has, however, been an issue since at least the beginning of June when he started this spreadsheet - and likely way before that. They have both failed here.

Yes, and I fully expect that any follow up attempts at post-rejection conversation he's made have been met with rolled eyes due to clumsy, perhaps whiney, attempts to persuade her to change her mind and have sex - thereby putting her on the defense and demonstrating his obliviousness to the underlying issues causing…

Well, that is until he becomes a major dick by ignoring her phone calls after sending this to her.

He's addressing more than she is though. She is shutting down communication entirely.

Maybe, or it might simply be that she is really disgusted with herself for gaining extra weight, and doesn't feel desirable.

You're reading far too much into this. You have no idea how he is in bed either. Frankly, since she posted the spreadsheet and stated that she hasn't had time for sex because of work, chores, and body issues - I'm more inclined to think that there is no major problems with his performance in bed. Otherwise, why…

Yes, he should work on discovering what her needs are, sure. But, she is given clear opportunities to address this and talk about her needs, but instead chooses to shut out her husband to watch Friends or simply because she is feeling gross. She needs to take responsibility for addressing her needs in this…

She isn't doing shift work at Applebee's. She isn't working doubles, she's got double the workload, due to lay offs in her office. Something that she (and he) will need to come to grips as she considers her career life/home life balance, because that's not likely to be temporary.

Yeah. You're right. His complaint doesn't factor anything else in. But her response on Reddit doesn't show that she's attempted to remedy this imbalance in their relationship - which he is clearly oblivious to. Yes, he's asking for sex, but sex isn't just sex in a relationship, it's him asking to have an intimate…

Not putting all the responsibility on her at all. There could be many reasons she's not initiating sex, and I'd be a fool to walk into that speculation. What is clear, is that neither one of them is getting out of this marriage what they want. And you're right, there is nothing indicating that he has asked her for…

I read the post. I mean the relevant piece where she actually says something about morning sex. I would love to read that if you can bring yourself to post one more comment here to me, please cut and paste that, because that is what I cannot find.

Oh yeah. Definitely agree with that!