And edibles, of course, are the easiest of all. You’re going to want to change out the packaging that’s got 95 OZ THC or whatever printed all over it.

No no no no no. No matter who you are, if your partner is dying in the hospital, you want to see them on their deathbed. Seriously, the push for gay marriage came about in large part because gay people were unable to see their partners in the hospital while dying of AIDS; that disease hurt those lower down on the…

One of the amazing things about Jill Lepore is that, when she examines a question like this, she doesn’t just go “oh well lgbt people have white men, and society loves white men and hates women.” She digs in deeper, and examines how each argument was justified in court as they relate to a variety of trends in society.

This sort of argument makes me fairly uncomfortable. It’s like this way for white, straight women to downplay the effects of homophobia and claim a victory in the oppression olympics while appearing intersectional. White straight women have made many, many gains over the decades, some of which aren’t sticking. Lgbt…

I like her, but more in that way you like a friend that’s always saying ridiculous and tone-deaf things, but like she means well, so you keep her around because she livens up your cocktail parties, ya know?

I think the change away from forced seduction and towards more consensual stuff happened more in books set in contemporary times. If you were reading historicals, you were more likely to happen upon some forced seductions and other rapey stuff.

... Ok? That’s cool? Like I said, my issue is when people are getting pissed off at me for not being pissed off as much as they are, at the same things they are. (See: the multiple friends who lost it on me when I didn’t launch into a 15-minute tirade about how awful Joss Whedon is for doing that to Black Widow.)…

Eh.... the trope of the angry feminist is also created by people who’ve done various activism things, and found themselves turned against when they try to do something different.

No, my username is not ironic. I’m not sure why you would think it was.

I find it fascinating how feminism vacillates between denying any trace of anger in the movement (often, and ironically, in a fairly angry fashion), and making performative outrage the model for demonstrating one’s feminist credentials. Please don’t get me wrong - the wrongness of sexism does not hinge upon how nice…

Does not being angry really mean one is happy? There are so many emotions one can experience regarding sexism and movements to end it; fatigue, alienation, pride, anxiety, hope, etc. There’s nothing wrong with being angry over awful things, but encouraging people to be angry over all other emotions seems unhealthy.

This is basically why I hate Savage fans: every time someone isn’t in love with him, they pop out of the woodwork to tell you how you, too, must worship at his feet. That’s awesome that he’s done some good for you, but it’d be nice if you could listen when some of us say he’s harmed us.

No. He’s done more than any single individual for Gay rights. He has done a TON of harm for the L, B, and T.

This isn’t like mixing up the salad fork with the entree fork. This is saying that your manicurist doesn’t have the same right to privacy as you do, and that they must share information that is deeply personal and easily weaponized against them, while you must do no such thing. It creates even more of a power…

The NYT suggests interviewing your manicurist and asking them how much they make. Is it just me, or does that seem really rude and inappropriate? “Hi, yes, I’d like rounded tips. Btw, how much do you make an hour?” I get wanting to make sure you aren’t going to a place that exploits their workers, but I dunno that…

You have to start suggesting actions before you get to 100% awareness. When people become aware, you have a fairly short window after that to get them to transition into doing something about it, or they get really defensive about being made to feel bad and not having any way to relieve that negativity. So while there…

Huh. Well, that seems... in basically no way an answer to ChiefQueef’s question.

I don’t think tumblrs documenting sexism are about suggesting solutions. I mean, I think it’s worth encouraging people to spend a little less time simply documenting sexism and “raising awareness” and more time figuring out what to do about it all. But I don’t think these tumblrs exist with the goal of suggesting…

What handy bingo card? I’m not seeing anything.

How many women are getting planners or day-of coordinators not because they believe that Real Brides must do this, because they don’t want to have to be the one doing all of the wedding planning and coordinating, yet know that their male partners aren’t going to do a damn thing to actually make the wedding happen…