You actually CAN use silicone lube with silicone toys, so long as you’re using high-grade silicone toys and decent quality lube. Cheaper silicone toys have other things in them than silicone, which is what leads to the dissolving toy. But higher quality silicone-on-silicone is fine. (If you’re worried, you can try…

I think if the teacher was the sort to have a detailed and comprehensive rubric for what an “emotionally naked” final looks like, they would have called it something other than “being emotionally naked”.

Can they, though? That’s the problem - what it means to get “emotionally naked” is fantastically ill-defined.

And for many, many things, I might agree with you (save for all the stories above, about how the students weren’t listened to at all, but their parents were). However, a case of potential sexual harassment is not one of them; I think one of the reasons that parenting is forever, at least on some level, is because life…

Perhaps, in the context of a discussion about making students get naked in front of their professor for a final, calling an unusually long drop period “awful and stupid” is unwise; if anything, this is exactly the sort of situation in which this drop period is a saving grace.

But the project that is the alternative is ill-defined, and suggests that students need to tell the teacher about their past traumas. Her options are either to do something easy but violating, or spend lots of time creating a project that might very easily not meet the professor’s subjective standards about what is…

But the thing is, that’s not entirely true. If you’re under a certain age, you have to list your parents on your financial aid apps, your parents are notified if you’re caught drinking, etc. I’m all for teaching kids to be adults in college, but I don’t think you can expect them to be adults when trying to complain…

If you knew that what was standing in the way of you and career advancement was you taking all your clothes off in front of someone in a position of power and trust, and that if you didn’t, it would put a blemish on your record and put you out a lot of money, would you do it? Or would you consider it sexual harassment?

Well, no, there are actually really good results so long as you start the interventions when they’re young. Success rates with 45 y/o’s suck, yeah, but 19 y/o’s are an entirely different question.

A real journalist wouldn’t pretend like asking someone to rehash their struggles with addiction but in 4 minutes and with no time to prepare thoughtful remarks was doing anyone a favor. A real journalist would have done some basic research about addiction and asked questions that showed at least a basic understanding…

Sorry - perhaps “slur” wasn’t the right word. But it’s also not a term they self-identify with, and it is used exclusively as a pejorative. You don’t have to be proudly reclaiming the radical feminist label to pick up on when someone’s insulting you.

I don’t really understand my uterus as fundamental to my experiences as a woman; it’s just like this annoyance off on the side. And I think it’s important to make room for trans activists to express their frustration at being constantly excluded, even if you don’t necessarily agree with their talking points, without…

I’ve found that when you cite all the trans women discussing variation in female experiences, including everything from race/class/sexual orientation/disability to the differences in growing up AFAB vs AMAB, and rely on trans women’s essays about how to talk about some of the common-but-not-universal differences…

Lol om nom nom!!

::deeeeeep sigh:: yeaaaaaaah. It’s tiring. (And not to shift the focus away from transmisogyny, but they do it with a lot of things, including lesbophobia.)

At this point, “terf” isn’t used to mean lesbian-feminists who believe Mary Daly and Janice Raymond had the right idea about trans women, it’s just a general slur to mean “a feminist who explicitly states trans women aren’t women”; I have mixed feelings about this.

Pro-tip: Those people who misgender you, and then when corrected, continue to do so as a way of insulting you? Dismiss their sexist asses, they are not worth your time. (I have had to learn this the hard way.)

Ikr? Like, hey girl, watcha doin’ on Saturday, wanna get drinks with me?

Except for the part where a gathering of lesbians is probably going to have a much higher percentage of women who’ve been raped by other women, to the point that the statement that the “vast majority” of rapists are men is questionable and it’s probably more like “a slim majority”. (I mean, women get raped at MichFest.…

For the people doing it multiple times a day, is more like twice a day, or like seven times a day?