Yeah, me too. "Ooo, an article about Mark's love life? Done!"

Probably the same way multiple people thought this was written by a woman.

Oh man. All of the straight people on here who are like "why do you need to get married to commit to each other? It's just a piece of paper!" A piece of paper that has huge, HUGE legal benefits, a piece of paper that acts as a symbol of lifetime commitment, and piece of paper that does genuinely make it much harder to…

The thing is, if marriage is hypothetically on the table for a couple, as it is for GinAndTonic and her guy, then refusing to talk about marriage and refusing to actually get married is refusing to progress in the relationship, and it is refusing to fully commit. Only if marriage is completely off the table as an…

This frustrated me SO MUCH. Being a strong, independent woman doesn't mean you can't take the sage advice of people you claim you trust.

Did you miss the part about how he has a history of targeting women, especially women of color, and telling them to "get fucked by a rake"? If you wanna blow past some remarks about which ethnicity tips the worst, that's one thing. But bullying women of color with rape threats is really quite another.

I love how Jezebel commenters are like

Yeah, but let’s not erase the lesbian aspect to this story, and turn it into some “all women are harmed” narrative.

No one says this on threads about straight PDA. Even if they think it, they don’t say it, because they get that PDA is part of being in a relationship. It’s really demoralizing to constantly hear even so-called “allies” say that expressing your love for your partner is “gross.”

I don’t understand how that’s better? At least with children, it’s an involuntary relationship, and thus there’s a more substantial case for not judging them by their parents. With spouses, this is a voluntary relationship. Either way, I don’t know why it isn’t fair game to be disturbed by the idea that a former…

I have this problem with a lot of academics, too. They make these really sweeping pronouncements about how everyone’s intersectional now, problem solved, and then I dig a little and come to find out that it’s been ages since they’ve really ventured outside of the academia bubble, and they’re just really out of touch…

Just fyi: the 1 in 5 statistic doesn’t just come from that single study. Other studies have similar numbers - sometimes it’s a little higher, sometimes it’s a little lower, depending upon region, population, how they define rape and sexual assault, etc. But there are tons and tons of studies that look at the…

I totally know what you mean. People who play it off get a ton of comments about how “omg you’re such a trooper!!!!!” and whatnot, and it sort of implies that the rest are whiners who are bumming everyone else out with their hardship.

For a lot of people, the point of marriage is having a legally binding contract that shares all your stuff with the other person and gives you tons of legal benefits, like the right to pull the plug, the right to tax-free property transfer, the right to have your kids also be their kids even if biology didn't work out…

I mean, to be fair to your mom, I'd also be pissed off if I planned and cooked for everyone and their +1, only to find out that some people felt that their poly status entitled them to a +2.

I didn't like Casual Vacancy because it's the most sexual book I've ever read that focused only on how repulsive sex is. She spends large amounts of time describing people's sex parts and sex thoughts, but only in ways that kill the arousal. Descriptions of a woman's "leathery breasts", or of a teenage boy's boner…

Oh, totally. I usually smoke before sex for exactly that reason.

What's your favorite strain for sex? I've been really into Blue Widow recently, but would love some recs.

Oh, yeah. Some strains are better for getting you focused and entertained for housework, some get you pumped up and energetic for exercise, some make you horny, some make you hungry (great for chemo patients, and anyone suffering from nausea), some make you sleepy. Many strains are hybrids that try to counteract the…

Your second sentence suggests that you don't have a problem with wedding gifts in general, just honeyfunds. Why are honeyfunds a problem, but nice silverware from the registry isn't?