Emma, you don't have an intersectional feminism if you can't admit that there's a little bit more to feminism than "just believing in equality." Saying that there are no valid reasons for not identifying as feminist, only misogynistic reasons, broadcasts how little you know about feminism and its history of…

But, so much of what the show is exploring is how imperfect the law of "inmates can't legally consent to sex with guards" is. Pornstache demanding blowjobs for McDonalds or medication or hard drugs is portrayed as a radically different dynamic than Daya and Bennett having mutual crushes on each other. Daya and Bennett…

She's also playing into some fairly misogynistic tropes. Women liking to be dommed is all natural and good, but men wanting to wear women's clothing or be penetrated, my god, what sort of freaks would ever want to be like women? Barf.

Wedding dresses made of organic lentils are so last year!

No one can stop a conservative woman from calling herself a feminist, but there's almost no part of the movement that recognizes conservative feminists as feminists. Sarah Palin's routinely held up as an example of women who call themselves feminists but aren't. The handful of people who recognize her as a feminist…

I think if you want to see sexually empowered men getting naked to express their own sexuality on their own terms, you just go watch regular porn, of which there is quite a lot.

Not really. They tend to advocate celibacy as the best way for us to manage our desires, which isn't what they'd be recommending if they thought we weren't lust-filled beings.

You're right that oppression doesn't have to be equal or happen in the same way for both groups to be considered marginalized. But that's not exactly the issue with aces being considered "queer" - it's that, in calling them queer, there is an argument that their oppression is both more or less equal, and happens in…

"I wish there was some way I could simultaneously hedge my bets that you're not a lesbian while also giving you a nice relaxed look about your denim attire?"

Nope! We're only cool and edgy when we're your friends. But even the most progressive allies tend to hope their kids are straight, because it's an easier life, because it's less messy and complicated, because then they don't have to think about their kid's sex life...

It's weird that everyone is jumping on Arquette for portraying women, gay people, and PoC as non-overlapping groups. (Yeah, it's wrong, but are any of the other movements really any better about it? Not really.) I thought the issue was more how she approached solidarity between different movements, both in that she…

they continue to hand down short suspensions to students found responsible for gender-based violence...We do not want them to know what it feels like to have their case dismissed and their needs ignored because the administration believes that rape can only occur between a man and a woman.

You really have to stop making this comments section all about the giant mountain of cookies you've awarded yourself for being such a supposedly-fantastic gay ally. "I supported a civil rights movement that has significantly less legal wins that my own movement because I <3 my gay male best friend, so everyone who…

Lol yes, because I neeever would have gotten raped, if only I had been comfortable with and able to shoot my boyfriend with a gun while he was taking advantage of me being passed out. IF ONLY.

I'm just sort of... stunned, that you are in touch with the kink community enough to have some of its members complain that it isn't hardcore enough kink, but not in touch with it enough to have heard almost all of it denounce the book as abusive. You're normally very in touch with things, so I'm rather curious about…

Huh, and here I thought GT had made it its mission to ensure that everyone who made even a cursory visit to the site knew that 50 Shades depicted a very abusive relationship.

The ward government says these certificates are equivalent to marriage. Do you say that? Does Tokyo's sexual minority community say that? Or is this another marriage knockoff, like civil unions - better than nothing, to be sure, and usually a stepping-stone on the way to actual marriage, but the fight's not over.

Ok that isn't really how statistics work. Like, rape survivors tend to band together, and women who haven't been raped also tend to group together, so we can't just go off of "people I know". There are also lots of variations by race, class, ethnicity, region, sexual orientation, etc; some groups have higher rates,…

1 in 5 is a number measuring rape; obviously, numbers are going to go up when you expand what you're measuring, and are including sexual harassment and non-rape assault.

Jez's take is more "ugh, bdsm nerds being pedantic about how 50 Shades isn't a good representation of bdsm, how annoying."