Oh, come the fuck on. No one accuses anyone of making monogamy the sum total of their identity when all they have to talk about is their wonderful spouse, but if a poly person has the gall to talk about their partners, suddenly they’re obnoxious about it.

I worked as a contractor at Costcos and Sam’s Clubs doing “demos” for health and beauty brands (Caress, Dove, Centrum Silver, etc.), which meant standing there doing nothing because unless you have food to give, no one gives a shit. Thanks to my long curly hair and earbuds, I got paid to go through most of the…

I like UD, it’s the one I’m using. I’m happy with it. Mostly I was looking for application tips on that.

My primer works quite well, and I like it. I’m anxious because I only recently got into the makeup game and no one ever taught me how to apply it, and the instructions seem ambivalent. I want to do it right.

It’s less a gotcha, more a “Can we please have some empathy, especially in a shit economy?” thing. I graduated with debt due to being suddenly cut off by my abusive father, so no savings there. I was so frantic for any kind of steady income after graduation that I applied to McDonald’s... and was rejected (this was in…

That person’s comment was a bit mean to you, I’ll admit, but not everyone gets unemployment insurance. If you’ve never been properly employed, no EI for you. If your company lies about why they fired you and you don’t have the resources or documentation to prove otherwise, no EI for you. If you quit the job rather…

Thanks for the recs. I’ve found eyeshadow primers I like. Is there some trick to applying them?

So, I use and love eyeshadow primer and have found the ones that I like, but I’m wondering if I’m applying it wrong or if there’s some trick to applying it that I don’t know. For reference: I squeeze it onto my ring finger and tap it in, starting at my lid and moving up. Then I do my brows as I wait for it to set, and…

German Nivea is similar to La Mer but a LOT cheaper (http://beautifulwithbrains.com/2014/10/03/dup…). I love the stuff. I use it everywhere but my t-zone.

Try different Sephoras, maybe? It’s not a perfect system and I did it a few times before it worked. I also had to figure out undertone stuff because though I’m neutral, I lean a bit warm, and a lot of “neutral” foundations have a subtle pink tone. You might be the opposite based on the orange-ness you’re describing.

Do you live near a Daiso? They sell these Washboard Egg things that are great for really getting into your brushes for a better clean. Best $2 I’ve ever spent. I use a bar of Dr. Bronner’s with it. You can find them near the kitchen sink stuff with the other kitchen sponge-type things. http://musicalhouses.blogspot.com…

I had to try ALL THE PRIMERS before I found one that doesn’t trigger my rosacea but that also doesn’t make me break out and keeps my makeup on. A lot of primers just seemed to make my skin soft and smooth without any makeup benefits, and a lot of it seems dictated by personal body chemistry.

If you use that technique but finish with a setting spray, not only does the powderiness go away, but it could help your makeup last longer. That’s what it does for me.

Your OP makes it out like attraction is some immutable thing that happens just because people have pantsfeels and doesn’t take into account why most people’s preferences often neatly align with the norms of their time and place. Maybe I overstated in reaction to that, but it really grinds my gears when people pretend…

People tell me that too, when I travel outside of SoCal. So what does that even mean?

I’m in tech. I am as far removed from that stuff as you can imagine. Yet I’m hardly the only person out here to feel the effects of amplified fat hatred. Example: http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to…

I never said how much I think people are influenced by surrounding culture, just that we are. Factually speaking, we are, and more than we realize, because no one ever wants to admit that they might be influenced. We all like to pretend we are special snowflake individuals who make choices based on our own preferences…

Hi, I live here to. 200+ lbs., 5’5 size 14/16. Is that actually fat enough for you?

The author of the post lives in LA, so maybe that’s relevant. I’m too fat and too SoCal to gaze at my navel without disintegrating into self-loathing, for the record.

Um, what? I am responding directly to a comment as it is worded.