Isn’t that exactly what the Boomers wanted? For us to stop spending money on lattes? Maybe this decline will convince them that it’s not individual choices that are the problem.

OK? Your point?

According to plenty of dudes, yes.

Oh, it’s worse now! They’ll swipe right on you because they swipe right on any woman to increase their chances of getting laid, but then insult you when your ugly ass has the gall to message them

Bad logic, dude. Women who ask men out are already at a disadvantage because they are going against traditional dating and gender roles; add in the disadvantage of not being a babe and that’s all disadvantage. For all the conversational posturing about “equality” and loving “strong women”, most men are just as human…

The point is that I didn’t get to the date in the first place. Asking men out has not been a successful endeavor for me or any woman-type I know who is not super hot. Super hot women, though? They do well when asking men out.

If merely relaying my real-life experiences qualifies me as “bitter”, then call me Angostura.

I would think so. I’ve never been one to shy away from initiating conversations but I’m pretty sure my success rate is equal to that of a not-super-hot guy.

*hot women

Because they’re two different things and carry different connotations and nuance?

This place is pretty much a unicorn, but xoVain does okay. Although tbh it hasn’t been at all the same since Alle left and FUCKING A I am so sick of reading about Korean beauty and skin care on there.

Before my Mall Makeover got posted, even. I might just have to post it to my personal blog.

I didn’t say I was fighting for shorter wedding contracts though? I was responding to your parenthetical statement here: “There are common-laws unions (or whatever the equivalent in USA... or do you have an equivalent??) for a reason, yo.”

I’m not super hot but I feel like elsewhere, people are more willing to overlook things like body size if you present yourself well and have a good attitude. LA, though, not so much.

I think it’s about looks. I can be the best-dressed person in a space and still get treated like I’m a hideous troll.

Marriage is still unreasonably helpful in most US states if you’re facing any kind of financial and/or health care situation. Obamacare/ACA has helped but health care is still much too hard to get in the US, and the government refused to acknowledge my husband’s disability (and give him the disability payments he’s…

I might have a pretty face in your estimation, but I’m fat, and people treat me like shit for it.

I can’t just say “fuck them” because they inhabit my world and affect it and therefore me.

Believe it or not, people sometimes treat other people like shit for not-legit reasons. It’s not all internal. I love myself but that doesn’t stop people from treating me like shit because I’m not hot.

I agree. I hated being in my early 20’s but looking like a teenager in male-dominated spaces both during and outside of work hours. I’ve gone some very very fine lines and other light touches of age on my face now, and people are so much better to me.