My mom, too. I had chronic appendicitis for 3 years before she took me to a doctor (weirdly enough to "punish" me for "faking it") who rushed me into surgery.

I have a friend who worked for her, and apparently she's an absolute MONSTER. Like, a truly horrible person. And all her employees hate her.

I was pretty snarky too, and I apologize for that.

It's cool that you know me so well that you can know from a comment what I'm like as a parent. And that I'm like your parents. You have a real gift and could probably make a lot of money with your psychic abilities!

When I say "almost every woman I know," I mean women I know well enough to talk about that stuff with. When it gets brought up in general conversation and I say "Yeah, it happened to me," (because I'm pretty open with that stuff), the response is almost ALWAYS "Yeah. Me too." Like, every single time I can think of,…

That's awesome. And it's horrifying that people who weren't molested are, apparently, "just lucky."

Thanks! My husband said the same thing. That he would totally understand it if someone was reluctant to leave their daughter alone with him.

OK. That's great.

OK. Well rape & murder can happen anywhere, but I'm still not going to walk down a shady ally in a crappy part of town at 3am. I don't really get how that's valid.

I wasn't either. Doesn't mean it doesn't happen. (Doesn't mean it WILL happen either, I know)

THANK you! I was starting to feel completely crazy. Am I the only one worried about this?

Question: How do you allow some sleepovers but not others.

I'm glad that the only thing you got from my comment was that the only thing I plan on teaching her is that every single human being on the planet might be a child molester. Awesome. That's totally the only thing I plan on teaching her.

I ABSOLUTELY don't want to deprive her of a childhood funfest. It's super important to me that she has an awesome and fun and, yes, independent childhood. I'll admit that it's MORE important to me for her to have a molestation-free childhood as well.

Honestly, I read about sleepunders (or whatever stupid name they're…

Huh? When did I say that?

Oh. Reading over what I wrote. I didn't mean I, and every woman I knew, was molested at a sleepover. I meant we were all molested. Always by someone everyone trusted. Priests, dads, cousins, friend's dad, mom's boyfriend, close family friend, and so on. I mean, it happens a lot. Every female…

When she's an adult, she can make her own decisions. When she's a kid, she's relying on me to protect her.

Oh. If the STATS say that then fuck it, then it must be true! Have at her, guys!

I posted this already, but has the molestation issue not occurred to anyone?

That's the ONLY reason my kid won't go on sleepovers. Paranoid? I guess. I'd rather be paranoid than have my kid go through what I and ALMOST EVERY WOMAN I KNOW went through. Sleepunders is a great option for "uptight" parents like me.

Reading through the comments about "uptight helicopter parents" pampering their kids with food and raising a nation of pussies.

"Toughen the fuck up?"

I'm trying to get my daughter through her life without getting molested/touched inappropriately (you know... like pretty much female I know). Sorry if it bothers you so much. No sleepovers for her.

Only sort of skimmed the comments, but I find it interesting that this seems to happen only to women. My dad is Armenian and I am very VERY white-looking. No one ever said anything about it when we went out.