Oh man, this is going to sound so lame, as it always sounds so lame to voice one's personal emotions about a celebrity's life—but I am happy for her. I have not seen that movie—but I think she is a good actress who gets too much flack for being a bad actress, given the abominably written role of Bella Swan in…

Your gif wins the internet!

Those pictures make me hate everything.

What a brave, painful story. So much respect to the author for telling her story out and for telling it so eloquently.

I didn't realize the relationship in the books (which I have not read) was more tantamount to an abusive relationship than a healthy BDSM relationship until last week, when I started reading about the books, and then I wanted to burn my eyes out of my skull. . . . anyway, just saying it's perfectly reasonable that you…

This is unfortunate, if true. I cannot really comment on it because I am not really informed of the nuances of Hip Hop culture—which is not to say that I don't listen to hip hop, but just that I haven't heard of these exchanges personally (and I don't think I could comment on any sub-topic of musical culture, to be…

I agree that men have to deal with ageism as well. As well as with attractiveness standards regarding height, hair, etc. And I think this is just as wrong as the fact that women have to deal with it. But I don't think that men have to deal with it to the same extent as women do. I don't say this to minimize the…

Totally agree. We put WAY too much power in the beauty of youth. I think the idea that youth=self-worth led to me enjoying my 20's so much less than I would have if I hadn't felt like I was "losing" something. We seem to always be telling girls to find their value in pieces of themselves that begin with winning the…

I know, right? I wouldn't go back either. But I was a hot mess when I was 24. I'm glad you had a blast! I spent my twenties being scared of getting old. Wasn't very much fun. I think I bought anti-wrinkle cream when I was 22, because I thought it was all downhill from there. Now I'm in my thirties and I have…

Calling another woman "old" is just the worst. 1) Everybody ages. It's not actually a totally lame thing to do, given it's INEVITABLE and it happens, holy shit, EVERY YEAR no matter what we do, 2) Erkyka Badhu is what, in her early forties? Sooooo old. Basically a freaking mummy. There's NOTHING about being 40…

I successfully hate-read it out-loud with my husband on our honeymoon UNTIL she got to the contract. I have no issue with BDSM (in theory), but the part of the contract where he demands that she do a certain amount of exercise and then consent to HAVING SOMEONE WEEKLY INSPECT HER MUSCULATURE?????

Equating different dialects with "jive talk" or "gibberish" is one of the more insidious forms of racism alive in America. My white parents are very left-wing, participated in the civil rights movement, and abhor more "obvious" forms of racism, but they still make comments like, "Listen to him, he sounds so…

I completely agree with you. My experience with porn when I was a teenager consisted of seeing my male friends watch/talk about it. It made me feel badly about my body and my sexuality. Like I said before, I'm not anti-porn per se, but I resent the way that it made me feel about myself and I do not want other young…

I think porn itself—the idea of watching people have sex/looking at naked people—whatever—does not have to be inherently objectifying towards women. As I am sure many have already said here. My problem with porn is that it is always from the male gaze (not all porn—just the majority of main stream porn). And YES,…

A rape victim.

Yes, that seemed to happen to me a lot too. So freaking irritating and heartbreaking.

Oh, don't apologize at all! First, this post is great. And, Second, I'm the queen of long rambling posts :). I agree with almost everything you said. I hate the rhetoric right now—mostly because I think it allows our opponents to get away with bullshit. We should always show more measure, and more logic, than…

This is great. Everything I wanted to say, tried to say, but more concise.

I generally agree with you on this site. . . but, here, I must respectfully (and I really do mean that) disagree. . . . Soave's doubts were voiced from a place of incredulity—how the heck could that have really happened, etc? You're totally right that the MAIN problem with Soave's piece was his block quoting of…

You are wonderful. THANK YOU.