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OR an article giving men advice on not misconstruing normal politeness or pleasantness as romantic interest.
This is so true. I've never seen any article or advice advising men to avoid behaving in a way that might be misinterpreted as romantic interest.
"If you sense that you could start unconsciously flirting ..."
You can only discourage a guy who is overt. Most guys leave some kind of plausible deniability. If you firmly tell them to stop hitting on you, they say they never were and you should be so lucky. :/
"Dial it back... around men in whom you sense discomfort." EFF YOU MOTHER EFFER!!!!! Twenty years in the workforce, gillions of shiatty cubicle jobs, and NOT ONCE have I seen a maneater a'la Demi Moore in "Disclosure" making those poor fragile lil menfolk uncomfortable. Not. Once. Oh I am sure she exists somewhere but…
God, this is just fifteen different kinds of stupid. Love that we're still using such wonderful victim-blaming advice as, "Well? Did you try not being pretty?" in present-day 2013. For reals.
Well, whatever...I act like a straight up ho in front of my grandma, so thanks for that advice.
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I think it is worth linking directly to the English Language PDF from the RFSU (Swedish Association for Sexual Education) that can be clicked through to from your article, especially since it isn't very long and is quite informative.
Me too. I was not an active kid, either. I always thought that since I first had sex at 19, it had degraded already. I heard that most hymens will do that by the time a girl is 18.
I still don't think I'm 100% sure what a hymen even is. I certainly don't remember breaking mine.
That's because your hymen doesn't HAVE to break. You can actually be born without one, and size/stretchiness varies a lot between different people, so it's entirely possible that you stretched it out before you were old enough to figure out that it was there, or that it was just small to begin with.
Mine was made of freaking kevlar. It took sex twice with my very endowed boyfriend to get rid of it, and it hurt for about the first 5 times or so. I almost quit because I thought sex was just horrible. Sure am glad I stuck with it!
I was mucking about on the connecting wall between my house and my neighbours (was pretending it was a balance beam), when I slipped and fell right on my ladyparts, in a hilarious You've Been Framed/America's Funniest Home Videos sorta way. I was 7, and all I remember of the aftermath was my mum helping me clean up in…
Yes. This is a nice summary of their research, at the website for the documentary How to Lose Your Virginity. I'm both surprised and disappointed that Katie's comments on the hymen still support the idea that all women have one to break and to bleed.
Wait a minute, didn't the swedes show that the hymen doesn't exist? I thought it was all about vaginal corona these days?????