Yes, there’s a strong movement against “exclusionary cis lesbians” (women born with vulvas who want to date/marry/sleep with exclusively other women born with vulvas) and, strangely, a lot of the most powerful people supporting that movement are cis men (men born with penises) who are gay and wouldn’t, realistically,…

Those are legal standards, and I don’t think they work at all when applied to daily life. If your friend dumped his girlfriend for cheating or stopped hanging out with a buddy because he never paid his part of the bar tab, would you believe your friend or would you wait for some sort of adjudication?

If only I, as a woman (sorry ‘cis-gendered’ woman, as I am now required to call myself) could stop thinking about gender as binary. My life would be so much easier. I would never have to cross the road when I see a ‘man’ walking towards me on an empty street. I would never have to feel scared in a room full of only…

Usually women do not gain anything when they accuse a man of rape so I tend to believe the victim.

This is a fucking shitshow and if the rumblings are true this has happened before and they are using queer/genderqueer identity for marketing and to target potential victims.

On the one hand, this is a pretty good example of how to at least attempt to assert your interpretation of events when accused of assault without denying your accuser’s interpretation. On the other hand, it definitely sounds like Hopkins ascribed to the misguided notion of rolling consent, whereby consent to one…

You have my genuine sympathies.

I’ve been sexually assaulted by a gay man. I am a straight woman. I don’t really care about how someone identifies if I’m getting assaulted, frankly.

Too little, too late. Liv’s statement sounds like complete bullshit. Ben sounds like a sociopath.

I think you can be supportive of other women’s choices and still wish better for your own daughters, no? Let’s face it, being a stripper isn’t really a fantastic long-term career. And when it comes to prostitution or adult entertainment, I’d just be super worried about abuse/rape/STDs.

It’s not really respectful to refer to a rape victim as a sexual partner, even with “unwilling” as bracketed aside. By definition, no-one is a “partner” in being raped.

Call me cynical, but yeah. I tend to suspect a lot of people self-identifying as non binary are tourists. Bowie wannabes.

Thanks for not jumping on me like the other commenter did. That was the immediate, “Red Alert” reaction for me. Typically, the term “power bottom” has an indelible relationship with gay culture, and this guy is obviously not gay.

I’m super confused. I thought...

That’s what my boyfriend has said about the two times he had to go to a strip club (both for bachelor parties). He said there was a feeling of sadness all around him, like the men who were happy to be there were emotionally empty and the women pretending to be happy to be there were also emotionally empty.

I’ve told this story a lot but never in Kinja so I’ll share it here: I had to play “My Heart Will Go On” on the trumpet in 5th grade and it was real torture.

I’ve had shit that was absolute rocket fuel. I mean, blast the fuck off. Whoa nelly.

I’ve done coke a few times and I admit that I probably didn’t try the good shit. But I still don’t see much of the appeal? If I am going to do some drugs I’d rather have something that doesn’t wear off every 20 minutes. I also felt like absolute death afterward.

Nobody cares what twenty-somethings think.

Feminists have a strange relationship with sex workers.