I really thought the ages were going to be 14, that was my first guess when I saw extremely.

That person's words left me so shocked. Like, asshole much? I think what gets me is that so many people think there is a universal form of feminism and if you're not in the sphere, you are a bad feminist. It drives me crazy. I once got bitched out on xo for saying that although I know it's judgmental, but…

Yes, it's the feeling of being so thrown off and surprised. I take it to heart before I realize that you cannot let total internet strangers get to you. And when I read most of them, everyone is so nice and so if I get negative stuff, I'm just shocked. I am apparently a delicate little flower online.

I love xojane (I second everything about the great variety!), but that is the one site that I never fail to get a bitchy response from at least 75% of my comments! There are so many awesome people and then people who will take what you say and make it a dramatic mess of awful. I never realized how internet sensitive I…

Everything you said right there is ME. I cannot believe you are mirroring me so well. My best friend just started having sex and even though I honestly don't want to right now, I'm still jealous that she is getting that attention. And I've been doing that judgmental bitchery thing too, telling myself I'm better off in…

I was the lone black girl in a clique of whites and at first when they would say racist stuff like "Oh, you are so white!" (I "talk white" and like white things I guess) I would just laugh it off even though it really hurt. I had to grow to say "Oh fuck off, my skin tone does not determine my personality" or…

As an introvert college student as well, if you want to use a dating site, do it! I cannot for the life of me get out there and meet people as well as so many others. I don't party, I don't drink, I just kinda work and go to class. And that is totally a-ok for now. If you're super busy and you just want to have a…

I like Anne Hathaway. That being said, she used the word "nevermore" in her speech and it immediately felt so contrived. No one speaks like that. It just felt so practiced and fake, and the best speeches are when people don't know they're going to win and they're legit surprised. Well, besides when Lin Manuel Miranda…

I am so not even surprised that Scarlet wasn't there, they never have love for Black Widow! But is Chris even there? I thought he'd be doing Thor 2 filming.

That story freaked me out so bad. It makes me glad for turnitin.com, the site quite a few of my profs use for us to turn in essays with. It scans your work and will determine if it's plagiarized. I of course am always worried mine will get flagged somehow by mistake but it's pretty much a no-fail site. I would die if…

YES YES YES to the bit about girls hating female characters like that. You will see so much hate on a female character and it's so obvious it's because she's "ruining" a ship.

It's probably because you enter a church thinking "must think pure thoughts!" and so of course you start thinking about everything you think you shouldn't be. Or you're not interested in the sermon so you want to think about more entertaining things. For me, it's always the first.

I think there is a serious problem with a lot of fanfiction out there that is just blatantly objectifying a sexual orientation. Some of it is just "lets write some gay sex because it's hot!" but I will argue that there are plenty of writers that care about the emotional side of things and can write well rounded LGBT…

I was hoping someone would quote that. It's so perfect for this.

It's crazy how important it was for me to hear just that from people. I'm pretty good at thinking for myself but every so often it's hard not to wonder if I'm making the right decisions. I really appreciate you taking the time to leave your insight!

I had to google that because I really thought you were wrong. Everything has a season/entire series based in Atlanta but not The Real World. I'm really surprised.

I just wanted to give a big thank you to everyone who commented on my post about virginity this weekend. I've gotten so many really wonderful and thoughtful responses since Friday and it has made me feel so much better about myself. I love this community so much, you all are the best!

I love all the "waiting" success stories people have spoken of. Like you waited until you felt right and you don't really regret the wait and it's not a huge deal anymore. That is what I needed to hear to reassure me that I'm not a total unicorn or something. I'm religious, but I'm not really planning on waiting for…

Not wanting to get a jerk is really why I want to wait it out, just so I really feel like I know the person. The whole experience thing is definitely something I've been thinking about, whether or not I should get some so I can become more self aware/confident in my future relationships. I just don't think it's…

I want to pin this up on a message board in my room or something for when I have doubt about my choice. This is the way I feel about sex, that it's special and I want to wait for when it's right. But when I get surrounded by people who really disagree, I tend to lose faith in that opinion. It's really good to hear…