Dear god, hearing that people care less after college is so good to hear. My friends aren't even on my case anymore about sex or even dating but I always get a vibe that I'm doing something wrong from them. It's funny how a little thing like that can make me feel infinitely better. Thank you for not only your words…

Definitely work to be done with dating, yes you're right. I'm not really equating it exactly, more like wondering if I should just go and have sex with someone and then when I'm ready to date I won't have to deal with any of the virginity business. But that is just not what I want at all and I know it. I'm not really…

I just want to thank you again for leaving your thoughts, it really means a lot to me. I hope the rest of your weekend is awesome!

Everyone keeps saying that when you get older, it won't even matter how long you waited. It reminds me of all those high school isn't forever things, the reminder that's just 4 years and you never think about so much of it after graduation. I think I'm really realizing that it's not something that's going to matter in…

I definitely do not think I'm going to regret waiting but I know I can't tell the future. I'd rather regret not having more experience over regretting a person I chose to be with. It does seem like you are in the minority but I wanted the opinions of everyone! I want to think about how important experience is to me…

I don't have any built up expectations or fantasies, I just want to know the person well! I just want to look back on it with some degree of fondness, even if the sex isn't great or me and the person don't work out. I want to know that at that moment, I wanted them and trusted them and that was what mattered. Your…

Knowing myself is one of my big reasons to wait. I know things about myself I sure as hell didn't know 3 years ago. I like that I've had time to get to know what I need and want in a relationship and what attracts me. When everyone else makes it seem like sex is magic, it's sometimes hard to stick to what I've already…

I am cringing so hard at 13. I hadn't even thought of sex yet, honestly I don't think I even knew how everything worked then. Many of the people I know have had not so great relationships after having sex quickly so I'm really not trying to play catch-up. My pathetic feelings are also self inflicted, but I don't feel…

"I figure you are only a bad feminist if you aren't one."

I wish stories like yours were more common in pop culture than the idea that if you don't lose it by freshman year of college you die alone. I think there's a stigma to waiting for someone you're serious about. But that's what I want so I can just deal with it! And no, I really can't get into the idea of casual sex…

So many people have said similar things about not even thinking about how long you waited years later. That's more comforting than anything, knowing I'm not likely to regret the wait. I'm on the die alone train of thought right now but I know it's silly. There are so many people out there I've never met and plenty of…

I am in complete agreement about everything you said. Like, every single thing. It's how I feel 98% of the time and it's only now that I'm the last one in my friend group that my virgin status has become an issue to me. And yeah, I know sex does not = adult, but it seems like everywhere I turn the requirements for…

I think I already knew it wasn't going to solve any emotional problems or hangups I have. What you said really reaffirms that idea. I do like your advice on just meeting people, I always think about how difficult it may be to learn to talk to people in the future so maybe I should try it out now. Of course, I have to…

It's the unattractive spinster thing that gets me sometimes. Some days I just want to get it over with so I can say hey, someone wanted me. But that is dumb as shit because wanting to get off with someone is not the same as really finding them attractive or desirable. I've been doing much better recently with liking…

I didn't think you were implying that at all, I just wanted you to know I wasn't! I seriously hate that there is so much pressure on people to have sex. This internal struggle I've been having all week about whether or not I'm normal is just dumb as hell. I admit and accept that I don't want to right now and I'm still…

Yes, all of that is exactly what I feel right now! And I really don't mind them talking, I really want them to be free about everything in their lives. It's just easy to feel left out and alone when you're not doing the same as them.

I really appreciate you being so open about your experiences. I feel like everyone around me is focused on dating and I'm not yet. It was an issue in high school but in college, not really so much. All my friends are no longer overly concerned about my dating life and that makes everything easier. It's just been…

I don't even feel pressured by anyone. I just started feeling like I'm waiting for no reason and that even though I don't want a relationship, I should just go and lose it. It's been a dumb week for me and I just wanted someone detached from my circle to tell me I was normal. Even 20 somethings need reassurance from…

Thanks for being so open and awesome! I don't think of it as saving myself really, but that I'm just waiting for it to be right, like what you said. I really needed to hear that my chosen path is not weird, but totally a normal decision. And for that, I really thank you.

Relationships are totally non-issue for me, I don't even want to casually date yet. I don't think I'm at a place in my life where I want that sort of connection and potential commitment yet. I was more worried about my lack of desire to date right now at all and if that was just totally weird. Thank you for your…