Good for your mom. I’m glad she’s okay. I once had a roaring fight with a boyfriend when I said that, if someone were attacking me, I would jab them in the eye with a key. I thought this was a good idea. He did not, and lectured me on how awful it would be to blind someone.

I’m guessing high-five. A few days ago, I woke up to a strange man standing over my bed, and after my fiance and I scared him back out of our house with screaming, we called the cops and they didn’t do a god-damned thing. They just said it was probably some drunk dude, and asked for congratulations for getting to our…

Things are changing. The police just said they’re going to stop using “soft” tactics and return to brutal authoritarianism. So we’ve got that going for us.

And what would you tell your sons?

Think I am a sexist troglodyte?

If you got so drunk that a mugger noticed and decided to take advantage of that, a lawyer wouldn’t attempt to use your drunkenness to get the mugger off charges.

“And if a woman is so intoxicated that she can’t remember giving consent for sex, then how can she know that she didn’t give consent?”

One reason we get so annoyed about this is because we can follow all these dumb rules and still get raped. I’ve got friends who’ve been raped drunk. I’ve got friends who’ve been raped sober. I’ve got friends who’ve been raped by strangers. I’ve got friends who’ve been raped by friends. People want to set up all these…

Do you think young people haven’t heard before why they shouldn’t drink beyond their limits?

She goes on to add that if women want to be taken seriously in our quest for equality, we really should stop yawping “rape” every time we regret a lighthearted sexual caper.

And men, you just keep doing what you’ve been doing. You’re perfect. And if you see a woman who is unable to take charge of her body and sexuality, take charge of those things for her.

Why are these columns never asking men to stop drinking so much that they cannot control their rape on/off switch?

Even if he did only give her a Benadryl and a glass and even if she was all, “down the hatch!!”, does that give him the right to rape her once she is helpless?? That is not a defense at all.

Right? I mean you do, definitely, have the right to face your accuser - the idea that that means you can drag them into court during every phase of the pre-trial is absurd. And it’s not only absurd, there’s legal precedent making clear that it’s absurd.

but his defense maintains that he offered her a Benadryl and a glass of wine

I am extremely grateful, to this day, that the assistant DA who handled my DV case was as warm, helpful, feeling...geez I can’t even find the words to express how much she helped me, just by being patient with me and sympathizing with me. She gave me the strength to carry on, no matter how conflicted I felt, and was…

sure because the prospect of being jailed won’t make it even more difficult for DV survivors to come forward.

Good. I work in DV advocacy. DV is already way under-reported.

staff male Bobby Finger.

No. Same universe, same characters, but a different timeline. The split in timelines happens when Sulu is already 20-something years old, so you would have to either say that Sulu “turned gay” in his 20s, or that original Sulu was closeted for the entire duration of the original series.