I agree we can do better. And being just basic white lady, I go back and forth between thinking I’m overreacting and being disappointed that we are still so messed up with how we represent POC and immigrants. Paul Sun-Hyung Lee, Canadian-Korean star of a sitcom in Canada, had some really poignant and thought-provoking…

I mean, what’s your sample size? Because that “conspicuous pattern” wouldn’t seem to include Roman Polanski, Woody Allen, George H.W. Bush, R. Kelly, Mark Halperin, Terry Richardson, Bill Cosby, Twiggy Ramirez, Ethan Kath, or most of the other dudes whose shitty, abusive behavior has been publicly discussed in the…

Do they really call it “champers?” I thought only upper class Brits called it that.

I think a positive part about coming forward with these experiences is that it allows you to find better support systems.

I’m about 2/3 through American Gods and it’s fantastic. I’m not a great book reviewer but it’s clever, imaginative, great characters. Even got my mom to read it.

AAAAAAHHHHHH That is absolutely horrifying! Did you punch him in the face? Did the passengers rise up in a righteous tide against him? Do bees sting him everywhere he goes?

That’s pretty much it. Usually like taking a item of significance and turning it into a cheap nicknack/using it wrong (like warbonnets), double standards (like as soon as a white person has cornrows they are suddenly some sort of cool trendsetter when POC are sometimes mocked for it), or generally acting as if you’re…

I think cultural appropriation is a problem if someone outside the original culture takes an item of particular religious or cultural significance and ignores or disrespects its context.

I started training today to become a volunteer advocate for a domestic violence shelter/services organization. I’ll be staffing the 24 hour help line. I’m so excited to be involved, nervous about the work, and grateful for this wonderful organization and all the passionate, intelligent, and compassionate people that…

Open the door and stick your bum out. The worst that could happen is that you shit on a bear.

As a former journalist, I can tell you that there is a reason why the first sentence of a story is called the lede (or lead). It’s because that’s where you put the information you consider the most important. That’s where the phrase “burying the lede” comes from—and that’s what this obit does.

Personally, I’m exhausted by the idea that we have to accept other women’s racism/classism/cisgenderism simply because they identify themselves as “feminists” and sometimes talk about body image, abortion and equal pay. There is room for debate and discourse among women, and there needs to be space for critique of the…

Having severe endometriosis, which included an 18-month stint of ever-worsening, constant pain, I can attest that I’m strong as fuck and will still throw my drink in the face of something talking shit about rape victims. Because I contain multitudes, goddamnit.

I fucking loved that book. I want it to be required reading for every human being on earth.

I never know what to say when someone knocks. “Hello”? “Occupied”? “I’m in here”? (They don’t know who *I* am!) It’s so awkward.

I have a 6 year-old-daughter. I’m nearly 40, so I got to go to high school pre-social media.

That might have been rhetorical but I'm going to tell you anyways...

I rewrite popular songs as songs about my cats and sing them to them constantly. My favorite is a song for my cat called Meachie set to the tune of "Fuck the Pain Away" by Peaches that goes:

This one happened to me, relatively recently.