This. So much benefit is being extended to her. The very real possibility is, she is just a nasty person.

I learned the lesson about not saying bad things about people's exes because they might get back together the hard way.

People always side with the one they're fucking. If you really, really want to state your piece you have to recognize that the person may not want to be super buds with you afterwards.

That makes a lot of sense. I just bristled and interpreted your good point to never have casual sex when one person isn't in a mind set to know if they want to have casual sex as "if you've ever had drunk sex, you're a rapist" which doesn't appear to be what you meant at all.

I have been hesitant to dive into Russian literature, but you comment makes me want to check this one out, at least! I need to take a break from working on my own writing and really jump into someone else's for a bit...

I have had this conversation with my son and have added that even though you are sure you are going to die at that moment, if at any time during sex a woman becomes unconscious you STOP.

I guess it's hard to understand because unlike you with your son, most parents don't drill down on the message that women's bodies aren't something they're entitled to play with early on. Props to you for recognizing you had to address it early. Even as a child I saw it. Boys literally hitting me hard on the face and…

You are an awesome mom! How rare is it that I hear this being taught. All too often moms of sons will say 'how dare you whores corrupt my special snowflake innocent angel baby?!'

Yikes! I will just admire the flowers from afar!

Damn, I was hoping you were going to say it was awesome b/c my street is covered in the stuff and my weekend is looking pretty boring.

It's a Ken-ife!

Ditto - I've been a long time commenter on Jez (I once even had a star... le sigh! and had a COTD! So my glory days have faded, I'll accept that) but these days I don't get to write as often, with increased job responsibilities cutting into my reading time.
So when I make a well considered contribution and remain gray…

The wife of the man she wanted to marry was delaying the divorce because that's how acrimonious divorces can go. Her name was Vera. This passive aggressive little shirt was her way of shaming the wife of the man she was sleeping with into giving him a quickie divorce. So. Not super nice.

I think that was the style back in the olden days... Wasn't it? lol.

It wasn't enough to get the womans husband, she just had to rub it in publicly and in chicken scratch. She really showed her true colors with that shirt... And her piss poor penmanship.

I try to get as many decent people out of the grey as I can, but sometimes I see comments in the grey that have a ton of recs and are funny and witty as hell. I can't explain it.

Finally a Ken doll wielding something worth mentioning.

Apparently there's a sheer threshold of stars/replies that gets you out of the grays as well. I'm out of the gray on Gawker somehow, and I'm pretty sure I don't have Gawker following me.

I don't think they even do anal. It made me realise how the lives of most women (ie. the women that lapped this crap up with a spoon) must be utterly devoid of any kind of healthy, sexual exploration if this book was considered “kinky” and “out there”. It was almost terrifying in its bland portrayal of completely…

Yeah, I don't get that, either. There are projects that obviously require some adult help, and that's fine. Some kids, particularly those with less developed motor skills, might need some physical help with it. But you can't do it for them! That's cheating and you know it.